If at any point she decides to want to talk again should I try and keep her away for her sake? I don't plan on doing it ever again in fact I don't plan on taking explicit photos or asking for them from anyone ever again
Misophonia (I think I spelled that right) he's got a more severe form of it if he has it imo but not the most severe. Of course just an opinion from what you said as I lived with someone with it my whole life. He would need to see a Dr. But it's more common if those in family have certain mental illnesses like ADHD,ADD, OCD, tourrettes ECT (can't remember exactly which ones but those are some that are in my family. Remember them saying they are common in the same family though). My dad has misophonia and there are different “levels” to it. Some can have it and sounds just bother them more then others. Then some they have to ask the person to stop making the noise but can do so nicely or remove themselves from the area. Then there's the ones who go off and are rude/unreasonable about it. Then worst are ones that physically have to stop the person making the noise possibly by removing them, forcing them to stop, going off, or even with violence. My dad was the last one and was abusive. we would get the shit smacked out of us for things like typing on the computer or even walking through the house if our joints popped more then a couple times. People sniffling at a restaurant or coughing he would go off. He's 6 ft 5 so no one ever stopped him he even got in physical altercations over it with strangers. Kids whining/crying yeah that was the worst. We were expected to be quite and pretty much had to learn how to socialize properly when we all moved out.
Regardless point is my dad has it. He was also an asshole tho imo. But apparently it makes him physically in pain to hear alot of sounds so he feels an uncontrollable need to stop the sound. He denies he has it although he was diagnosed years ago when I was a teen. He went for anger issues after getting in trouble. Definitely not an excuse for the abuse but why it made it easier for him to get to that point I guess.
Regardless he may have this or something similar. With treatment can find coping mechanisms. But he has to want to do that otherwise it's pointless.
Has it ever occurred to you that you may like something and still look for an upgrade? I sure like my car, it was great condition for the price but I sure as hell am going to upgrade if I find a better one at good price!
Same goes with jobs! I like my job now but if someone offered me a better position, I’m packing.
Life isn’t a status quo. At least not for many people. Where you are right this moment, happy or not, doesn’t have to be where you’ll always be.
If you've explained all this to her and she chooses to side with him due to his manipulation then unfortunately that's on her. She should respect the choice you've made, and if she does then time to go make another friend.
Boundaries are to protect yourself, not to tell other people what to do – so when your boyfriend entertains the flirtations of other women, what will YOU do about it to take care of yourself?
I agree- I need to get better at managing my anxiety and learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings. I want to get stuff off my chest, but not as his expense, so this is something I need to work on
Leave her dude. She is not satisfied with your dick. Sooner or later she will find her desirable description of penis and keep riding that. And would come up with something like I am in love with you as a person but down there my mind is bit dull.
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If at any point she decides to want to talk again should I try and keep her away for her sake? I don't plan on doing it ever again in fact I don't plan on taking explicit photos or asking for them from anyone ever again
Misophonia (I think I spelled that right) he's got a more severe form of it if he has it imo but not the most severe. Of course just an opinion from what you said as I lived with someone with it my whole life. He would need to see a Dr. But it's more common if those in family have certain mental illnesses like ADHD,ADD, OCD, tourrettes ECT (can't remember exactly which ones but those are some that are in my family. Remember them saying they are common in the same family though). My dad has misophonia and there are different “levels” to it. Some can have it and sounds just bother them more then others. Then some they have to ask the person to stop making the noise but can do so nicely or remove themselves from the area. Then there's the ones who go off and are rude/unreasonable about it. Then worst are ones that physically have to stop the person making the noise possibly by removing them, forcing them to stop, going off, or even with violence. My dad was the last one and was abusive. we would get the shit smacked out of us for things like typing on the computer or even walking through the house if our joints popped more then a couple times. People sniffling at a restaurant or coughing he would go off. He's 6 ft 5 so no one ever stopped him he even got in physical altercations over it with strangers. Kids whining/crying yeah that was the worst. We were expected to be quite and pretty much had to learn how to socialize properly when we all moved out.
Regardless point is my dad has it. He was also an asshole tho imo. But apparently it makes him physically in pain to hear alot of sounds so he feels an uncontrollable need to stop the sound. He denies he has it although he was diagnosed years ago when I was a teen. He went for anger issues after getting in trouble. Definitely not an excuse for the abuse but why it made it easier for him to get to that point I guess.
Regardless he may have this or something similar. With treatment can find coping mechanisms. But he has to want to do that otherwise it's pointless.
Has it ever occurred to you that you may like something and still look for an upgrade? I sure like my car, it was great condition for the price but I sure as hell am going to upgrade if I find a better one at good price!
Same goes with jobs! I like my job now but if someone offered me a better position, I’m packing.
Life isn’t a status quo. At least not for many people. Where you are right this moment, happy or not, doesn’t have to be where you’ll always be.
If you've explained all this to her and she chooses to side with him due to his manipulation then unfortunately that's on her. She should respect the choice you've made, and if she does then time to go make another friend.
Block him, don't let his manipulation get to you
Boundaries are to protect yourself, not to tell other people what to do – so when your boyfriend entertains the flirtations of other women, what will YOU do about it to take care of yourself?
I agree- I need to get better at managing my anxiety and learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings. I want to get stuff off my chest, but not as his expense, so this is something I need to work on
Leave her dude. She is not satisfied with your dick. Sooner or later she will find her desirable description of penis and keep riding that. And would come up with something like I am in love with you as a person but down there my mind is bit dull.