Your sister is more beautiful than you but you are more attractive overall, Even if She's more beautiful You probably are not ugly, a regular looking girl with a great personality will always wreck a more beautiful girl who is not that fun or interesting to be around, someone You click with wins all the time, and if You click sexualy as well thats it, Game over, You won.
If the crush was before knowing You and when he knew You he fell For You and forgot You sister existed, then thats a testsment of how attractive You are… Maybe she is more physically beautiful, but You are more attractive.
Look at it like this, a great looking guy who has a kinda ok personality vs a normal guy who You click with and has an amazing personality and can't wait to see him everytime.
DISCLAIMER: regardless if the relationship makes it or not, that friend is an asshole, she knew what she was doing by bringing this up “casually”, she probably has an eye on your bf, get rid of her.
And talk with You bf about how all of this makes You feel, and the fact he didnt tell You, it's tough but not relationship ending, seems like he pursued you because he liked You more not because he “settled”
First off I think it is crazy to drop 30k+ on anything that don't have a return of at least breaking even or is life or death. A wedding that expensive is crazy and that is just your part of it. Especially when a trip to the courthouse and under a hundred bucks accomplishes the exzact same thing. This tells me neither you or your wife to be are financially responsible. A financially responsible couple wanting to buy a house and make a life together would have a simple church wedding or even a courthouse wedding and put all that money into something real like a house and property. Not blow it just to show off to friends and family. 2nd, financial disagreements and responsibilities unequally shared by a couple most times builds resentment and ends in a nasty divorce. And it sounds like you 2 are already on this path. My advice to the both of you is sit down and talk this over as adults and hash out a mine, ours, yours financial agreement. If she don't expect to have to pay for things like house payment, car, etc. Then it goes in your name and she dose not own it. If she insists that her money is hers to do with as she pleases while you provide everything then you need to reap the benefits of your naked work providing. Because she is by just not paying and being along for the free ride. As a couple I think the fair thing to do is add up the last 3 years expenses for everything house, car, utilities, phone, insurance everything it takes to live as a family and then Divide that by 36 and then half that total. That sum should be what each of you should be kicking in each month. The rest should go into savings as a couple for unexpected expenses such as emergency health situations etc. This is what a responsible and smart couple would do that is working together towards a life together not just marriage of convenience. Which from the information you gave is what you are doing. This is my 2 cents
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Your sister is more beautiful than you but you are more attractive overall, Even if She's more beautiful You probably are not ugly, a regular looking girl with a great personality will always wreck a more beautiful girl who is not that fun or interesting to be around, someone You click with wins all the time, and if You click sexualy as well thats it, Game over, You won.
If the crush was before knowing You and when he knew You he fell For You and forgot You sister existed, then thats a testsment of how attractive You are… Maybe she is more physically beautiful, but You are more attractive.
Look at it like this, a great looking guy who has a kinda ok personality vs a normal guy who You click with and has an amazing personality and can't wait to see him everytime.
DISCLAIMER: regardless if the relationship makes it or not, that friend is an asshole, she knew what she was doing by bringing this up “casually”, she probably has an eye on your bf, get rid of her.
And talk with You bf about how all of this makes You feel, and the fact he didnt tell You, it's tough but not relationship ending, seems like he pursued you because he liked You more not because he “settled”
That’s terrifying, but I appreciate the knowledge.
At first I was like, “this is too crazy a theory to be possible.”
Then I realized that if she’s crazy enough to fake a pregnancy, she might be crazy enough to get actually pregnant by someone else lol.
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How are you doing this math?! Every single date you through out their is not possible for a human pregnancy
First off I think it is crazy to drop 30k+ on anything that don't have a return of at least breaking even or is life or death. A wedding that expensive is crazy and that is just your part of it. Especially when a trip to the courthouse and under a hundred bucks accomplishes the exzact same thing. This tells me neither you or your wife to be are financially responsible. A financially responsible couple wanting to buy a house and make a life together would have a simple church wedding or even a courthouse wedding and put all that money into something real like a house and property. Not blow it just to show off to friends and family. 2nd, financial disagreements and responsibilities unequally shared by a couple most times builds resentment and ends in a nasty divorce. And it sounds like you 2 are already on this path. My advice to the both of you is sit down and talk this over as adults and hash out a mine, ours, yours financial agreement. If she don't expect to have to pay for things like house payment, car, etc. Then it goes in your name and she dose not own it. If she insists that her money is hers to do with as she pleases while you provide everything then you need to reap the benefits of your naked work providing. Because she is by just not paying and being along for the free ride. As a couple I think the fair thing to do is add up the last 3 years expenses for everything house, car, utilities, phone, insurance everything it takes to live as a family and then Divide that by 36 and then half that total. That sum should be what each of you should be kicking in each month. The rest should go into savings as a couple for unexpected expenses such as emergency health situations etc. This is what a responsible and smart couple would do that is working together towards a life together not just marriage of convenience. Which from the information you gave is what you are doing. This is my 2 cents