Honestly, I can only wish you good luck. Therapy only helps those who a) realize they have an issue and b) are willing to work through that issue. Therapy isn't easy. It is damn naked. It means digging up all those old, traumatic things and living through them again to make peace with them.
Even those willing to do it to get better struggle a lot at times – I have severe OCD (inherited from my mom) and I have had several therapist and also spent a few years in inpatient care. I know the struggles myself and I have seen many other patients struggle as well. Your wife being unwilling is not a good thing. Now she is also pregnant and struggling and there will be a million struggles with a newborn. Given the energy needed to work through therapy, this should have been addressed before pregnancy because from now on, there will be literally no good point in time where she can be otherwise stressfree and thus able to devote her whole energy to therapy.
This absolutely sucks for you. I hope you will prioritize your child (and mother); i honestly don't see a great way to deal with this on short notice.
You are 22 years young, don’t waste your life on people who don’t deserve you.
Honestly, I can only wish you good luck. Therapy only helps those who a) realize they have an issue and b) are willing to work through that issue. Therapy isn't easy. It is damn naked. It means digging up all those old, traumatic things and living through them again to make peace with them.
Even those willing to do it to get better struggle a lot at times – I have severe OCD (inherited from my mom) and I have had several therapist and also spent a few years in inpatient care. I know the struggles myself and I have seen many other patients struggle as well. Your wife being unwilling is not a good thing. Now she is also pregnant and struggling and there will be a million struggles with a newborn. Given the energy needed to work through therapy, this should have been addressed before pregnancy because from now on, there will be literally no good point in time where she can be otherwise stressfree and thus able to devote her whole energy to therapy.
This absolutely sucks for you. I hope you will prioritize your child (and mother); i honestly don't see a great way to deal with this on short notice.