People can’t tell their partner thier insecurities with their bodies without expecting an insult back? He couldn’t just acknowledge they changed and he was still attracted to her? It’s almost like op was a human having a vulnerable moment? Yes she should dump someone who says that but I can also have the opinions his excuse was trash.
Lies of omission certainly come into play for information of this magnitude, especially after dating for 2 years. No way he was not actively deceiving her by withholding for that period of time.
She SAYS she has zero interest sexually in him, but that's an easy thing to tell you. If she's normally been somewhat open about having met and communicated with him and the one time she didn't tell you about meeting him indicates that she's not telling the truth about something – or she's effectively lying by omission.
The fact that she was with him for 4 years means she's invested to some degree whether she's honest about that or not. I wouldn't waste anymore time on the relationship if I were you.
I had an ex who all of a sudden started getting mystery texts that I was cheating on him, and other weird rumors about me. They continued for months. He was getting them as I sat next to my father in the hospital while he was dying. He was getting them later that night after my dad passed and I was back home. He was angry, accusatory, and started suggesting different people in my life who may have sent them to him.
He was sending them to himself through an app. He was deliberately creating a rift between me and those close to me. He was using it as an excuse to distrust me and go through my phone. He used it as something to constantly hold over my head. It was all deliberate.
Ty! Your comment is helpful!!
People can’t tell their partner thier insecurities with their bodies without expecting an insult back? He couldn’t just acknowledge they changed and he was still attracted to her? It’s almost like op was a human having a vulnerable moment? Yes she should dump someone who says that but I can also have the opinions his excuse was trash.
Lies of omission certainly come into play for information of this magnitude, especially after dating for 2 years. No way he was not actively deceiving her by withholding for that period of time.
This is a HUGE red flag.
Shake it off and move on.
You really know your stuff! You must be very skilled in the art of manipulation.
She SAYS she has zero interest sexually in him, but that's an easy thing to tell you. If she's normally been somewhat open about having met and communicated with him and the one time she didn't tell you about meeting him indicates that she's not telling the truth about something – or she's effectively lying by omission.
The fact that she was with him for 4 years means she's invested to some degree whether she's honest about that or not. I wouldn't waste anymore time on the relationship if I were you.
I had an ex who all of a sudden started getting mystery texts that I was cheating on him, and other weird rumors about me. They continued for months. He was getting them as I sat next to my father in the hospital while he was dying. He was getting them later that night after my dad passed and I was back home. He was angry, accusatory, and started suggesting different people in my life who may have sent them to him.
He was sending them to himself through an app. He was deliberately creating a rift between me and those close to me. He was using it as an excuse to distrust me and go through my phone. He used it as something to constantly hold over my head. It was all deliberate.
Is it possible she is doing the same?