I know everyone is saying the first step is therapy. While I agree you need to get there. Here is my advice. For the next 30 days, when you wake in the morning. Go into the bathroom, look at yourself in the mirror, and say 1 positive thing about yourself. Every day for 30 days. Do not repeat affirmations, and do not miss a day. If you miss a day, start over and continue until you get 30 days in a row.
I want to point out something that also might be happening
Attempting to move into her building to be closer to her Tried hot to get involved in her life.
When I read the moving bit, I immediately that could be a bit extreme.
Which lead me to these thoughts…There is a thing as too much love.
The above points makes me think there could be a slight chance (take that with a grain of salt) that she could be feeling smothered or intruded.
Moving closer with a heavy focus on being involved in all aspects of each-others lives… Of course those are all goals in a relationship, but they're layers you add when the weight can be handled. And if its coming on too strong for her, it could be resulting in her withdrawal from the relationship.
You most def are overextending yourself in the effort, when you aren't getting anything in return, its time to either reserve some of your energy by toning it down… or contemplate exiting the relationship to find someone who matches your energy.
Before you decide to break up (because I totally agree you should)… Perhaps ask her if she has been feeling the above.
Because you're in a relationship, and she certainty needs to give you a solid explanation on this bit:
she said she doesn't want to get too close to me.
What does that even mean?
Sounds like she wants a relationship, but a very minor version of one she can handle, nothing overwhelming. Whereas you want the full package with the extra trims… And that is probably where the both of your incompatibilities is coming from.
I'd suggest asking her the above thoughts, followed by what her ideal relationship looks like, what is the kind of relationship she see's herself in. From those answers, then decide if this is no longer a suitable fit.
Aw thank you. I really should do this.
Do you even like your daughter?
I know everyone is saying the first step is therapy. While I agree you need to get there. Here is my advice. For the next 30 days, when you wake in the morning. Go into the bathroom, look at yourself in the mirror, and say 1 positive thing about yourself. Every day for 30 days. Do not repeat affirmations, and do not miss a day. If you miss a day, start over and continue until you get 30 days in a row.
I promise you this will help.
I want to point out something that also might be happening
Attempting to move into her building to be closer to her Tried hot to get involved in her life.
When I read the moving bit, I immediately that could be a bit extreme.
Which lead me to these thoughts…There is a thing as too much love.
The above points makes me think there could be a slight chance (take that with a grain of salt) that she could be feeling smothered or intruded.
Moving closer with a heavy focus on being involved in all aspects of each-others lives… Of course those are all goals in a relationship, but they're layers you add when the weight can be handled. And if its coming on too strong for her, it could be resulting in her withdrawal from the relationship.
You most def are overextending yourself in the effort, when you aren't getting anything in return, its time to either reserve some of your energy by toning it down… or contemplate exiting the relationship to find someone who matches your energy.
Before you decide to break up (because I totally agree you should)… Perhaps ask her if she has been feeling the above.
Because you're in a relationship, and she certainty needs to give you a solid explanation on this bit:
she said she doesn't want to get too close to me.
What does that even mean?
Sounds like she wants a relationship, but a very minor version of one she can handle, nothing overwhelming. Whereas you want the full package with the extra trims… And that is probably where the both of your incompatibilities is coming from.
I'd suggest asking her the above thoughts, followed by what her ideal relationship looks like, what is the kind of relationship she see's herself in. From those answers, then decide if this is no longer a suitable fit.