You need to give up. He is not going to change. He is lucky, if it was me in your shoes, I would have called the police and called him the useless thief he is.
I hope you've changed your bank passwords, email passwords, literally any passwords. Message him if he sells anything from the home, you will charge him with theft. Its the next thing he will do, sell any jewellery or anything of value to pay for his addiction.
Stop enabling him. Stop making excuses. You need a lawyer to sort out the situation with the flat ownership. It might need to be sold and any profit split between you. Then you need to block him from your life and move on.
He will not change. He has blown through a truck ton of money. He will drag you down. It is time to call this done.
Addicts absolutely need support, but the partner has to look out for themselves as well.
Addicts need support, not someone that will be a pushover and let them keep making the same mistakes. He lied to her about a coke addiction and was stealing money from her to pay for it.
The best thing OP could do in this situation would be to keep offering support but to pull back. Take away his access to her money and make sure he can't manipulate her either. If that means they have to live! separately for a while, then they do what they have to.
You have no need to figure out what’s next. You already know.
Leave, and it’ll be with your dignity
I tried posting to r/sex first, but my post got deleted by the AutoModerator. I'll talk to him about including more toys in the bedroom.
You need to give up. He is not going to change. He is lucky, if it was me in your shoes, I would have called the police and called him the useless thief he is.
I hope you've changed your bank passwords, email passwords, literally any passwords. Message him if he sells anything from the home, you will charge him with theft. Its the next thing he will do, sell any jewellery or anything of value to pay for his addiction.
Stop enabling him. Stop making excuses. You need a lawyer to sort out the situation with the flat ownership. It might need to be sold and any profit split between you. Then you need to block him from your life and move on.
He will not change. He has blown through a truck ton of money. He will drag you down. It is time to call this done.
Addicts absolutely need support, but the partner has to look out for themselves as well.
Addicts need support, not someone that will be a pushover and let them keep making the same mistakes. He lied to her about a coke addiction and was stealing money from her to pay for it.
The best thing OP could do in this situation would be to keep offering support but to pull back. Take away his access to her money and make sure he can't manipulate her either. If that means they have to live! separately for a while, then they do what they have to.