She hung out and danced and cozied up with a guy who was taunting you in front of her. Why do you like her? She was actively disrespecting you while you sat and watched. Then she asked you what was wrong. She's pushing your buttons and letting other people push your buttons. You don't do that to people you love.
Clear communication is necessary. âJust waitâ isnât going to work. There must be clear goalposts and milestones. Some examples would be:
credit card debt is less than $1000
a savings of $xxx to pay for the hospital stay and baby needs (you may ask her to make a list of items the baby will need and how much itâll cost)
move into a two bedroom unit
she needs a job that offers maternity leave of some kind and to contribute 1/2 to the babyâs savings account
if she wants to get married first, then saving for a wedding comes first (decide on a budget/amount first)
Donât explain it to her. Tell her the answer is YES if she has a plan for all the expenses and your non-negotiable items (bigger place, lower debt by XX amount). Ask what her plan is when the baby is 1 year old (or however old your baby will be when maternity leave ends).
I wholeheartedly agree with the statement of letting her go. If she expects you to do all the work, pay all the money, and her plan is âget pregnantâ then Iâve got bad news for you: this is not a life partner, this is a baby mama.
Hey OP, youâre the side piece! Congratulations on finding out, âcause I guarantee she never would have told you of her own accord.
Well, “till death” won't be too far away..
She hung out and danced and cozied up with a guy who was taunting you in front of her. Why do you like her? She was actively disrespecting you while you sat and watched. Then she asked you what was wrong. She's pushing your buttons and letting other people push your buttons. You don't do that to people you love.
Want to make it work?
Clear communication is necessary. âJust waitâ isnât going to work. There must be clear goalposts and milestones. Some examples would be:
credit card debt is less than $1000
a savings of $xxx to pay for the hospital stay and baby needs (you may ask her to make a list of items the baby will need and how much itâll cost)
move into a two bedroom unit
she needs a job that offers maternity leave of some kind and to contribute 1/2 to the babyâs savings account
if she wants to get married first, then saving for a wedding comes first (decide on a budget/amount first)
Donât explain it to her. Tell her the answer is YES if she has a plan for all the expenses and your non-negotiable items (bigger place, lower debt by XX amount). Ask what her plan is when the baby is 1 year old (or however old your baby will be when maternity leave ends).
I wholeheartedly agree with the statement of letting her go. If she expects you to do all the work, pay all the money, and her plan is âget pregnantâ then Iâve got bad news for you: this is not a life partner, this is a baby mama.