Again my man, I would just be speculating. Effort presents itself in many different ways. Maybe her idea of effort is different than your own.
Or.. maybe you're correct, you put in a lot more effort. She may simply not care or have it in her to do so, to be that 'serous' in a relationship.
Think the point is, you BELIEVE she isn't putting in enough effort, which is a valid complaint. If talking to her about it or communicating this fact is impossible as she won't hear it – then your options become quite limited.
Usually the grieving party would state the problem to their partner and meet half way to resolve the grievances. This is the bases of relationships.
If this doesn't work, you can 'put up or shut up' as they say. Break it off for your own mental wellbeing, finding someone who is a better fit. Or come to terms you'll simply be the one putting more effort in.
You are right to be scared by what happened. However, this girl thought she was home alone and had not been informed that anyone else would be there, she has never met you, she was protecting herself. Sounds like she was as scared as you were. Your BF should not be taking this lightly, he obviously knows the house rules and, presumably, knows his female roommate gets nervous about strangers in the house.
Again my man, I would just be speculating. Effort presents itself in many different ways. Maybe her idea of effort is different than your own.
Or.. maybe you're correct, you put in a lot more effort. She may simply not care or have it in her to do so, to be that 'serous' in a relationship.
Think the point is, you BELIEVE she isn't putting in enough effort, which is a valid complaint. If talking to her about it or communicating this fact is impossible as she won't hear it – then your options become quite limited.
Usually the grieving party would state the problem to their partner and meet half way to resolve the grievances. This is the bases of relationships.
If this doesn't work, you can 'put up or shut up' as they say. Break it off for your own mental wellbeing, finding someone who is a better fit. Or come to terms you'll simply be the one putting more effort in.
You are right to be scared by what happened. However, this girl thought she was home alone and had not been informed that anyone else would be there, she has never met you, she was protecting herself. Sounds like she was as scared as you were. Your BF should not be taking this lightly, he obviously knows the house rules and, presumably, knows his female roommate gets nervous about strangers in the house.
Someone is ready for a baby and it ain't you. Rethink and then skedaddle.
So you are not here for relationship advice, simply an assurance that your piss poor behavior is acceptable according to other men?
Pro tip, if you want to attract women, listen to women.
The fact that she hit you is abuse, not how much it hurts.
He's lucky you didn't crush his balls and call the police. You did nothing wrong. This guy is a dipshit at best and a predator at worst.
Just talk to her. Tell her how you feel. It is a weird move.
Women are socialized to not to give up on others. Give them the benefit of the doubt, give them another chance, then try harder ourselves.
What happens is we short-change ourselves by this sacrifice. We put our needs aside, and martyr ourselves for love.
Love yourself more than you love him, and you will realize that you are worthy of someone who is good to you as you are to them.
Even being alone is better than being used.
You can do this!