Some people can love another person and not be physically attracted to them but still have a fulfilling romantic relationship with them.
I couldn't, personally. And it doesn't sound like you could, either.
I'm sure he's a wonderful guy. But if you are just not attracted to him, you can't make that not be an issue by just repeating “attraction doesn't matter” . It DOES matter.
I get it's nude being long distance to gauge whether you'd be attracted to him. But there are workarounds. Can you have a video call with him? Or can he do short videos for you and send them – you could ask him to take a video to show you around his town, or something like that. Something where you would see him 'in action' so to speak, not just a picture.
That might help you figure out more clearly if there's any attraction there. I think you need to try this, or any other ways of gathering info you can think of – if you two have been in contact for two years already, and it might be a long while more before you could meet in real life, the disappointment will be all the more crushing for both of you if you realize then that you're not physically attracted. Do what you can to figure out sooner if you could be attracted or not, rather than breaking both your hearts somewhere down the road.
And when she was first accused of cheating, gf completely forgot about the ultimatum and had no idea why anyone would make up a story about her. But she remembered the next morning.
She's being a child. You already apologized and got her some gifts and a nice day planned. if she wants to continue to be pissy about it and ruin her own birthday that's her fault not yours
You just mentioned her weight and fitness habits many times and every time you talked about her mental health you talked about how it related to her weight. When you talked about how it impacts you, you talked about your lack of sexual attraction.
If you care about your girlfriend and how she feels, it’s more than natural to ask how her night went. You obviously don’t want to hound her over what she did, but just wanting to hear about her night is standard good partner behavior.
As far as wondering why she went out to a club with her friends and didn’t invite you, that’s also normal!! It’s really important and healthy for both people to have time outside the relationship. Both alone time and time with friends that aren’t connected to the partner. I know it sucks, but it’s just something we gotta learn to cope with
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He left her. So I think she yearns for him and continues to push into his family.
Some people can love another person and not be physically attracted to them but still have a fulfilling romantic relationship with them.
I couldn't, personally. And it doesn't sound like you could, either.
I'm sure he's a wonderful guy. But if you are just not attracted to him, you can't make that not be an issue by just repeating “attraction doesn't matter” . It DOES matter.
I get it's nude being long distance to gauge whether you'd be attracted to him. But there are workarounds. Can you have a video call with him? Or can he do short videos for you and send them – you could ask him to take a video to show you around his town, or something like that. Something where you would see him 'in action' so to speak, not just a picture.
That might help you figure out more clearly if there's any attraction there. I think you need to try this, or any other ways of gathering info you can think of – if you two have been in contact for two years already, and it might be a long while more before you could meet in real life, the disappointment will be all the more crushing for both of you if you realize then that you're not physically attracted. Do what you can to figure out sooner if you could be attracted or not, rather than breaking both your hearts somewhere down the road.
And when she was first accused of cheating, gf completely forgot about the ultimatum and had no idea why anyone would make up a story about her. But she remembered the next morning.
She's being a child. You already apologized and got her some gifts and a nice day planned. if she wants to continue to be pissy about it and ruin her own birthday that's her fault not yours
You just mentioned her weight and fitness habits many times and every time you talked about her mental health you talked about how it related to her weight. When you talked about how it impacts you, you talked about your lack of sexual attraction.
If you care about your girlfriend and how she feels, it’s more than natural to ask how her night went. You obviously don’t want to hound her over what she did, but just wanting to hear about her night is standard good partner behavior.
As far as wondering why she went out to a club with her friends and didn’t invite you, that’s also normal!! It’s really important and healthy for both people to have time outside the relationship. Both alone time and time with friends that aren’t connected to the partner. I know it sucks, but it’s just something we gotta learn to cope with