Boyfriend (27M) called a blind girl (26F) a burden on our friend/her boyfriend (26M). He refuses to apologise.
2KI could really use some advice because we've never been in an argument this bad. It's the worst one we've had over his behaviour. The situation he's put us in is an uncomfortable one. I have to give the short version because I'm waiting to go in for an appointment.
From my understanding. Viv was a friend of Matt's cousin. She apparently had met Matt on and off for a few years whenever he'd go to one of his cousins parties or get togethers. She had a little bit of a crush on him. Bianca (the cousin) found out and tried to set the two of them up with each other. And it worked. Viv eventually asked Matt out and he said yes. They've been together for close to a year at this point.
My boyfriend made an offhand comment to matt when we were having drinks last weekend. It went and qoute “Bro, I couldn't date a blind girl. It seems like such a burden to have to move stuff around for her”. Matt asked him what he meant by that and he doubled down by saying stupid shit like asking how they get intimate. Why do you work out so much if she can't see what you look like. Matt essentially told my partner to kick rocks, to put it nicely. The guys said he was being a jerk to put it nicely. If the other guys weren't there to separate them. A fight would have broken out. It got back to Viv and she was upset.
The long and short of it is. He won't apologise because he said he meant what he said. He doesn't understand why Matt would be so annoyed at him for speaking what “everyone” is thinking. And he just refused to apologise. He doesn't get that the others think he's an idiot and he's just making this worse for himself. How do I make him see sense? As I said, this is the worst fight we've had over his behaviour to the point we're not talking at the moment.
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