Honestly it sounds like you need to end it. There’s nothing wrong with what he likes and want and needs, but there IS something wrong with him not being honest with you so you could make an informed choice. I’m really sorry this is happening.
I agree with everything you say. But the last part is meh. I know my worth. I'm a 10/10. I'm still humble in other ways but I will never play myself down to act like a naive wall flower that doesn't know how she looks like.
Plus humbelness can be shown in other ways. For example how I donated to this brokie who i consider a lost case at this point
That’s your call. There are plenty of people who can look at their own parents relationship, and horrible dissolution, and still love both their parents. I don’t see anywhere where OP said, “idgaf that my dad betrayed my mother”. Life is fucking complex, you can love someone and have really complicated feelings about their life choices. His mother has zero business demanding that he pick sides because of how her marriage turned out. That’s a horrible thing to impose on your child and incredibly selfish. Your hurt, your trauma, your pain from your adult relationship is yours. Life is fucking very hot. You are responsible for your own well-being. If she said, son I cannot have a relationship with you because you have a relationship with your father that would be one thing. But putting the onus on him is bullshit.
I don't believe he knowingly sent anything to someone underage, I think it was just part of their scam to extort money from me.
I really am concerned they WILL share the video, I've actually had one of my old guy friends message me this morning out of the blue after years of not talking. This is one of the people they listed when they were threatening to share it. Could be a coincidence and it's really easy to find out by just replying to my friend but I don't have the mental energy to talk to him.
You’ve dated for 3 years. He can’t say he loves you. Things were great in the honeymoon phase, but when that 6 months was up, your sex life dwindled & he has nothing good to say about you.
Why do you want to spend your life with someone who doesn’t love you?
Im pro choose but I do believe that a potential father deserves to know. So he can make informed decisions. You made multiple selfish choices and the fact you aren’t even sorry for it is wild. What’s crazy is the fact you can’t have kids is probably your body telling you, you had your chance and blew it.
Yes. OP call animal control and make SURE he didn’t take your cat to the pound. You need to verify the coworker really has the cat and he’s not elsewhere
He should leave you, that is obvious. It seems your bf is impulsive, but he lacks resolve, otherwise he would ditch you long time ago.
What could you do? Cut out the friend he hates, and that keeps making mess of your relationship. You can admit you have been a shit partner, and ask him what is it he would want to change in what ways. He should do a written list.
If I were him I would start from telling you to shit on your “friend” in messages before blocking her, to ensure she woyld hate you, and you wouldn't reconnect. Then again, I wouldn't stay in this mess until this point.
I absolutely agree that you should take time for yourself. no ifs, ands or buts about it. this is what you want, don't let anyone – especially someone who will basically benefit if he is able to change your mind.
taking it slow DOES NOT MEAN texting all day long! that needs to stop. you need to be living your life, not spending it texting him all day.
you say this new guy is great, but he is not respecting your wishes. i would be very wary of a guy who has sat by waiting for you – and can't wait.
hold him back firmly. i would definitely encourage you not to get physical with him. he seems like the type that would run with it.
This is absolutely true, humans didn't evolve to cum every day. The purposes of cumming is reproduction, it feels good because that's natures way of incentivizing it in order for the species to not become extinct. All early humans who didn't have this adaptation most likely didn't reproduce in the first place. Cuming every day is completely useless in evolutionary terms, a woman needs around a year to reproduce again, and a male even though he could theoretically impregnate multiple women in a single day wouldn't be able to find the supply. OP wasn't arguing that it is unhealthy, which is the argument you tried to refute, but simply that humans didn't evolve to cum every day, which is accurate.
Eating sugar feels good because we are adapted to seek it out, this is because early humans only had access to a scarce supply of sugary fruits, which could provide way more energy than the abundant vegatables. So the humans who sought out the sugary fruits had a more calorie dense diet and better chances of survival.
The crucial point is that the sugar was scarce, which is not the case anymore, we still have the adaptation to want to eat sugary stuff, it feels good because that's how our brain incentivizes the “good” behavior of eating sugary stuff, but you wouldn't say that eating as much sugar as possible is “good” nowadays, because the environment has shifted dramatically.
I doubt she will respond to that when she doesnt care about anything
Honestly it sounds like you need to end it. There’s nothing wrong with what he likes and want and needs, but there IS something wrong with him not being honest with you so you could make an informed choice. I’m really sorry this is happening.
I agree with everything you say. But the last part is meh. I know my worth. I'm a 10/10. I'm still humble in other ways but I will never play myself down to act like a naive wall flower that doesn't know how she looks like.
Plus humbelness can be shown in other ways. For example how I donated to this brokie who i consider a lost case at this point
That’s your call. There are plenty of people who can look at their own parents relationship, and horrible dissolution, and still love both their parents. I don’t see anywhere where OP said, “idgaf that my dad betrayed my mother”. Life is fucking complex, you can love someone and have really complicated feelings about their life choices. His mother has zero business demanding that he pick sides because of how her marriage turned out. That’s a horrible thing to impose on your child and incredibly selfish. Your hurt, your trauma, your pain from your adult relationship is yours. Life is fucking very hot. You are responsible for your own well-being. If she said, son I cannot have a relationship with you because you have a relationship with your father that would be one thing. But putting the onus on him is bullshit.
You are never going to be a higher thought then his family and religion
How long you endure this is up to you
I don't believe he knowingly sent anything to someone underage, I think it was just part of their scam to extort money from me.
I really am concerned they WILL share the video, I've actually had one of my old guy friends message me this morning out of the blue after years of not talking. This is one of the people they listed when they were threatening to share it. Could be a coincidence and it's really easy to find out by just replying to my friend but I don't have the mental energy to talk to him.
You’ve dated for 3 years. He can’t say he loves you. Things were great in the honeymoon phase, but when that 6 months was up, your sex life dwindled & he has nothing good to say about you.
Why do you want to spend your life with someone who doesn’t love you?
“Out of all your friends, your dick is in the top ten.”
“Out of all your friends, your dick is in the top ten.”
Im pro choose but I do believe that a potential father deserves to know. So he can make informed decisions. You made multiple selfish choices and the fact you aren’t even sorry for it is wild. What’s crazy is the fact you can’t have kids is probably your body telling you, you had your chance and blew it.
Yes. OP call animal control and make SURE he didn’t take your cat to the pound. You need to verify the coworker really has the cat and he’s not elsewhere
What you have described is clearly not really good sex.
Masking isn't possible like this though. I'm ND and know this first hand
He should leave you, that is obvious. It seems your bf is impulsive, but he lacks resolve, otherwise he would ditch you long time ago.
What could you do? Cut out the friend he hates, and that keeps making mess of your relationship. You can admit you have been a shit partner, and ask him what is it he would want to change in what ways. He should do a written list.
If I were him I would start from telling you to shit on your “friend” in messages before blocking her, to ensure she woyld hate you, and you wouldn't reconnect. Then again, I wouldn't stay in this mess until this point.
I absolutely agree that you should take time for yourself. no ifs, ands or buts about it. this is what you want, don't let anyone – especially someone who will basically benefit if he is able to change your mind.
taking it slow DOES NOT MEAN texting all day long! that needs to stop. you need to be living your life, not spending it texting him all day.
you say this new guy is great, but he is not respecting your wishes. i would be very wary of a guy who has sat by waiting for you – and can't wait.
hold him back firmly. i would definitely encourage you not to get physical with him. he seems like the type that would run with it.
Thanks for the heads up on the title. I’ve gotten autobotted so many times and the bit refers to M or F that I just goofed
This is his character. Think if you want to be with someone like this. Hypocrite
This is absolutely true, humans didn't evolve to cum every day. The purposes of cumming is reproduction, it feels good because that's natures way of incentivizing it in order for the species to not become extinct. All early humans who didn't have this adaptation most likely didn't reproduce in the first place. Cuming every day is completely useless in evolutionary terms, a woman needs around a year to reproduce again, and a male even though he could theoretically impregnate multiple women in a single day wouldn't be able to find the supply. OP wasn't arguing that it is unhealthy, which is the argument you tried to refute, but simply that humans didn't evolve to cum every day, which is accurate.
Eating sugar feels good because we are adapted to seek it out, this is because early humans only had access to a scarce supply of sugary fruits, which could provide way more energy than the abundant vegatables. So the humans who sought out the sugary fruits had a more calorie dense diet and better chances of survival.
The crucial point is that the sugar was scarce, which is not the case anymore, we still have the adaptation to want to eat sugary stuff, it feels good because that's how our brain incentivizes the “good” behavior of eating sugary stuff, but you wouldn't say that eating as much sugar as possible is “good” nowadays, because the environment has shifted dramatically.