you don’t ever need to explain YOUR boundaries. it’s as simple as it hurts you. if they ask why, you should simply say because you’d never do that to them. it’s your boundary.
Let me be one of the only contrary opinions here. I wish I never would have been allowed to shower or be around one of my grandma's, but everyone assumed it was innocent and okay because she was my grandma. Some grandma's are evil. So if you feel uncomfortable with it, speak up. I know millions of people shower with female relatives and all is okay, but some don't too and I feel like no one else has really brought that up.
Do not, I repeat, do not get rid of this baby. Keep it. He needs to get into individual therapy, and you two need to attend couples therapy. Its clear he has trauma from his youth and its all coming out now. Honestly he probably will change his mind back once he starts going. In addition, once you give birth seeing the baby might be a moment that makes him realize how he’s acting is wrong. Try to hammer home that he is not his father, he will be a great dad, that you love him, and the kid will love him. Hopefully this will not end in divorce, but if you have the baby, go to therapy, and try to help his confidence and nothing changes, you may have to. Try to give it time, though.
Tell him he needs to get sober if he wants to remain in the relationship. If he doesn’t do it, break up with him. He’s clearly struggling, but substance abuse is a part of the cycle for him. He needs to get sober.
he does not have empathy for you. if he has aspd he is PHYSIOLOGICALLY INCAPABLE of empathy. he's faking it and you bought it. if you're okay with him faking it and the mask slipping then fine. you're being ignorant though if you think things will stay the way they are
I guess because the one time I said it to someone which was after an entire year of me and that person dating, that person just responded with “I know you do” and it shattered me.
you don’t ever need to explain YOUR boundaries. it’s as simple as it hurts you. if they ask why, you should simply say because you’d never do that to them. it’s your boundary.
Let me be one of the only contrary opinions here. I wish I never would have been allowed to shower or be around one of my grandma's, but everyone assumed it was innocent and okay because she was my grandma. Some grandma's are evil. So if you feel uncomfortable with it, speak up. I know millions of people shower with female relatives and all is okay, but some don't too and I feel like no one else has really brought that up.
Do not, I repeat, do not get rid of this baby. Keep it. He needs to get into individual therapy, and you two need to attend couples therapy. Its clear he has trauma from his youth and its all coming out now. Honestly he probably will change his mind back once he starts going. In addition, once you give birth seeing the baby might be a moment that makes him realize how he’s acting is wrong. Try to hammer home that he is not his father, he will be a great dad, that you love him, and the kid will love him. Hopefully this will not end in divorce, but if you have the baby, go to therapy, and try to help his confidence and nothing changes, you may have to. Try to give it time, though.
I hope it works out OP, I really do.
Does the doctor know she canceled sonogram because she knew she’d see something terrible? Because that’s beyond anxiety.
Tell him he needs to get sober if he wants to remain in the relationship. If he doesn’t do it, break up with him. He’s clearly struggling, but substance abuse is a part of the cycle for him. He needs to get sober.
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he does not have empathy for you. if he has aspd he is PHYSIOLOGICALLY INCAPABLE of empathy. he's faking it and you bought it. if you're okay with him faking it and the mask slipping then fine. you're being ignorant though if you think things will stay the way they are
I guess because the one time I said it to someone which was after an entire year of me and that person dating, that person just responded with “I know you do” and it shattered me.