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Never stay overnight at her house anymore or ask yourself if this relationship really worth it and is she worth it? Sleep is extremely important and uninterrupted Sleep is heaven, I totally understand your predicament, good luck
How do I stick to my boundaries and expectations without ending the relationship
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What happens next would define your relationship. There is several possible scenarios ranging from him standing up to his family all the way up to him staying at home but leeching off of you. Whatever does happen will help you understand where the relationship is going.
we’re both young? we don’t drink coffee??
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Never stay overnight at her house anymore or ask yourself if this relationship really worth it and is she worth it? Sleep is extremely important and uninterrupted Sleep is heaven, I totally understand your predicament, good luck
Ohhhhh good one.
Guess you can reach out. I would probably not feel the same again.
Good luck
How do I stick to my boundaries and expectations without ending the relationship
This is confusing. The essence of boundary is that when it’s crossed, you leave. Expectations can be altered or compromised on but it always comes at a price and it has to be a two way street.
You say you share similar values and life goals. That’s debatable. You want to online with your boyfriend and he says he’s not ready. The goal might be shared but the timeline is not.
Then he says that he’s afraid of disappointing his family by moving in with you. You are prioritizing your relationship with him and he’s prioritizing the relationship with his family. Alternatively, he’s just not mature enough to stand up to them. Given his age, this might be recurring theme.
Tell him that you want to be out of your parents house by X time. He can either join you and you get a place together or you’re getting a roommate. It’s not ultimatum, you’re just ready to enter a different stage in your life and you’re going to do it with or without him. You’ll still be a couple, just not cohabiting.
What happens next would define your relationship. There is several possible scenarios ranging from him standing up to his family all the way up to him staying at home but leeching off of you. Whatever does happen will help you understand where the relationship is going.
Don’t disrespect his relationship. If you can’t contain it. Block him. And move on
He is NOT religious… I should point that out