Iโm sorry I posted forgot relationship advice is filled with feminists and not realistic logical people, bad session on my part. Bye you miserable souls enjoy staying single with your 100 body count women empowerment bs lmao
OP, you did assault her. Depending on state laws, that's anything from assault, menacing, threatening, etc.
But… she also committed battery against you.
So congratulations, you're both domestic spousal abusers. It's like that song “Breakfast at Tiffany's” except fucking awful. And then you come here looking for advice? My guy, you're flirting with prison time. Throw in the towel, lick your wounds, and stop being abusive. Maybe that way you'll pair up with someone who, also, isn't an abuser.
You have a wonderful different perspective. Thank you. Also made me alil sad. But i am glad you have a husband that loves and supports you and that you have a growing family.
I always was worried about perfect timing myself. As like the oldest person in my family especially among siblings and cousins to have a kid. My cousin my age literally has a child a year away from high school then i have 17yo cousins also having babies before me. Not saying teen pregnancy is anything great bt literally the last of the bunch is what I'm getting at.
My husband and i have been together for yeaaars and we wanted to wait till marriage because of my own personal issues with growing up with a deadbeat dad. I thought marriage would give me more security despite knowing my Husband since i was a teenager.
We were trying for more than 2 years. And we both were getting worried something was wrong bt just kept saying if it happens it happens. Eventually jst completely put it on the backburner and when we least expected it i found out i was pregnant and am giving birth in a months time. I turned 29 this month. My husband is 32. All of our friends have toddlers already or kids in school lol
Shit doesn't always work out the way u think it would in ur head.
having personal accounts is not financially abusive and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise has ulterior motives. when i was 20 and naive, one of the few pieces of relationship advice my mother gave me was to ALWAYS have a separate bank account in a relationship and to only put enough money for shared, necessary expenses in a joint account. prior to this convo, my mom had quite a lot of trouble with trifling, mooch-y men and thatโs something that scarred me in my childhood, so i took this sensible advice to heart. your fiance is a 35 year old grownass man and he knew exactly what he was doing.
There's no way to bring this up that doesn't sound like an accusation and lack of trust.
It's barely different than a woman wanting her bf to take a lie detector test to prove he's not a rapist. I state barely as assuming the worst in a woman and protecting yourself is normalized yet nearly everyone would be side eying a woman who didn't trust her male partner and wanted a test.
Just ensure the prenup protects her if she has kids or takes maternity leave. If she has to sacrifice her career for you/the kids or her career is impacted by your transfers then cough up the money.
Sounds like the horror stories you heard may be women who gave up their lives/careers to be a moving military wife and when she left the relationship she had nothing to start over with
I think you know what you need to do. Leave. Now.
Iโm sorry I posted forgot relationship advice is filled with feminists and not realistic logical people, bad session on my part. Bye you miserable souls enjoy staying single with your 100 body count women empowerment bs lmao
OP, you did assault her. Depending on state laws, that's anything from assault, menacing, threatening, etc.
But… she also committed battery against you.
So congratulations, you're both domestic spousal abusers. It's like that song “Breakfast at Tiffany's” except fucking awful. And then you come here looking for advice? My guy, you're flirting with prison time. Throw in the towel, lick your wounds, and stop being abusive. Maybe that way you'll pair up with someone who, also, isn't an abuser.
You're obviously not even interested in him so just stop wasting everyone's time
How is it not random? Is that what you mean?
You have a wonderful different perspective. Thank you. Also made me alil sad. But i am glad you have a husband that loves and supports you and that you have a growing family.
I always was worried about perfect timing myself. As like the oldest person in my family especially among siblings and cousins to have a kid. My cousin my age literally has a child a year away from high school then i have 17yo cousins also having babies before me. Not saying teen pregnancy is anything great bt literally the last of the bunch is what I'm getting at.
My husband and i have been together for yeaaars and we wanted to wait till marriage because of my own personal issues with growing up with a deadbeat dad. I thought marriage would give me more security despite knowing my Husband since i was a teenager.
We were trying for more than 2 years. And we both were getting worried something was wrong bt just kept saying if it happens it happens. Eventually jst completely put it on the backburner and when we least expected it i found out i was pregnant and am giving birth in a months time. I turned 29 this month. My husband is 32. All of our friends have toddlers already or kids in school lol
Shit doesn't always work out the way u think it would in ur head.
Is English a second language for you my guy? You keep typing out sentences but they make zero sense.
having personal accounts is not financially abusive and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise has ulterior motives. when i was 20 and naive, one of the few pieces of relationship advice my mother gave me was to ALWAYS have a separate bank account in a relationship and to only put enough money for shared, necessary expenses in a joint account. prior to this convo, my mom had quite a lot of trouble with trifling, mooch-y men and thatโs something that scarred me in my childhood, so i took this sensible advice to heart. your fiance is a 35 year old grownass man and he knew exactly what he was doing.
There's no way to bring this up that doesn't sound like an accusation and lack of trust.
It's barely different than a woman wanting her bf to take a lie detector test to prove he's not a rapist. I state barely as assuming the worst in a woman and protecting yourself is normalized yet nearly everyone would be side eying a woman who didn't trust her male partner and wanted a test.
Just ensure the prenup protects her if she has kids or takes maternity leave. If she has to sacrifice her career for you/the kids or her career is impacted by your transfers then cough up the money.
Sounds like the horror stories you heard may be women who gave up their lives/careers to be a moving military wife and when she left the relationship she had nothing to start over with