Ok… but why is your wife in lingerie in your bathroom taking photos you've never seen before? Sometimes people take photos of themselves to feel prettier, but in a relationship, they also send them to their husband/SO.
You need to go through your wife's phone, specifically her trash on her phone. The trash stays around for quite some time. And if you can, I would see if your wife's text records are on y'all's carrier.
She is allowed to process her emotions, but it's 5 years later. She had her closure. He left (and it would seem told her where he was going and that he was leaving). Closure isn't someone explaining their reasons for leaving. Sure that may feel nice to get but it doesn't close off your feelings for them. You have to do that process yourself by working through your feelings, which takes time. It's clear as day she didn't do that and instead ignored it. The fact that she didn't know her feelings or thinking about dating him again shows it.
So she has every right to write in a journal and figure out her feelings but it's blatantly obvious she did not handle her feelings for 5 years, and she started dating even though she knew she hadn't.
While her boyfriend is absolutely wrong for reading her journal, she is absolutely wrong for dating again without dealing with her obvious issues/trauma. The idea that you break down emotionally because someone comes back around (not even in her life, just in the area), is not how a healthy person would be handling it, and she lied to her boyfriend (which people seem to have forgotten) when he tried to communicate with her, which may be the biggest nono in the entire situation.
Thanks for your reply, yes her father figure bought them for her before they grew distant so they have importance to her. I like the idea of buying her an upgraded version, but it’s still more the sentimental value of them. I used her phone to use find my iPhone to try find the location of them, but it said that they were at her house, when I know I used them at my work.
What is three days supposed to do? I don’t believe in breaks. You’re either in it or you’re not.
Ok… but why is your wife in lingerie in your bathroom taking photos you've never seen before? Sometimes people take photos of themselves to feel prettier, but in a relationship, they also send them to their husband/SO.
You need to go through your wife's phone, specifically her trash on her phone. The trash stays around for quite some time. And if you can, I would see if your wife's text records are on y'all's carrier.
She is allowed to process her emotions, but it's 5 years later. She had her closure. He left (and it would seem told her where he was going and that he was leaving). Closure isn't someone explaining their reasons for leaving. Sure that may feel nice to get but it doesn't close off your feelings for them. You have to do that process yourself by working through your feelings, which takes time. It's clear as day she didn't do that and instead ignored it. The fact that she didn't know her feelings or thinking about dating him again shows it.
So she has every right to write in a journal and figure out her feelings but it's blatantly obvious she did not handle her feelings for 5 years, and she started dating even though she knew she hadn't.
While her boyfriend is absolutely wrong for reading her journal, she is absolutely wrong for dating again without dealing with her obvious issues/trauma. The idea that you break down emotionally because someone comes back around (not even in her life, just in the area), is not how a healthy person would be handling it, and she lied to her boyfriend (which people seem to have forgotten) when he tried to communicate with her, which may be the biggest nono in the entire situation.
Glad you’re taking care of him. You’re very much doing the right thing here.
Well adjusted adults don’t put their hands on other people over a fucking video game.
Maybe try finding a partner, not a daddy. It works better if they aren’t literally more than double your age
TRUST. YOUR. GUT.
Time to end things honey. You need some time to focus on yourself and setting healthy boundaries. A good therapist can help you with this.
Thanks for your reply, yes her father figure bought them for her before they grew distant so they have importance to her. I like the idea of buying her an upgraded version, but it’s still more the sentimental value of them. I used her phone to use find my iPhone to try find the location of them, but it said that they were at her house, when I know I used them at my work.