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I don’t know how many more times I can say it. Masturbation and sex are not the same thing. If it is to you, just because you get off with both, then that’s a you issue. It seems there’s a lot of women agreeing with me in here, and since we are talking about a woman’s libido I’m inclined to say I have more authority to speak on it than butthurt men.
You have sex because you’re horny. You masturbate because you’re horny. I see why you don’t get it.
I have sex because I am horny. I masturbate because it’s a comfort thing and I sleep better.
Are you seeing the difference yet?
The only thing I agree with is that physical touch and sex, etc. is important in relationships. However she’s on necessary medication and there’s going to be communication and compromise needed. Not butthurt men crying that if she can masturbate she’s being manipulative.
Honestly I’m struggling to understand why people here think following an ex hookup is worse than an ex relationship. Both are very prone to being jealous about, but I see following an ex relationship as worse. It has more to be jealous about with both sex and love history. Either way they aren’t different enough to allow one over the other. The gf is a hypocrite. But op don’t share your sexual history unless asked and even then be very sensitive about it smh
My answer is I don’t think 1 month in is too soon to bring this up because it’s obviously important to you and there’s no sense waiting until 6 months in to bring it up. It’s a dealbreaker. Bringing it up on the 1st date even wouldn’t be wrong.
I just also think you need to have a separate conversation with her about whether or not you’re exclusive. The fact that you’re not sure and haven’t brought it up gives me vibes that you’re unsure about her. That’s why I think you need to do some soul searching, decide if a serious relationship with her is something you want and go from there.
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Absolute coward – that was exactly my first thought. Who does that to a spouse!?!
I don’t know how many more times I can say it. Masturbation and sex are not the same thing. If it is to you, just because you get off with both, then that’s a you issue. It seems there’s a lot of women agreeing with me in here, and since we are talking about a woman’s libido I’m inclined to say I have more authority to speak on it than butthurt men.
You have sex because you’re horny. You masturbate because you’re horny. I see why you don’t get it.
I have sex because I am horny. I masturbate because it’s a comfort thing and I sleep better.
Are you seeing the difference yet?
The only thing I agree with is that physical touch and sex, etc. is important in relationships. However she’s on necessary medication and there’s going to be communication and compromise needed. Not butthurt men crying that if she can masturbate she’s being manipulative.
Honestly I’m struggling to understand why people here think following an ex hookup is worse than an ex relationship. Both are very prone to being jealous about, but I see following an ex relationship as worse. It has more to be jealous about with both sex and love history. Either way they aren’t different enough to allow one over the other. The gf is a hypocrite. But op don’t share your sexual history unless asked and even then be very sensitive about it smh
Why would you think its patronising?
So why are you dating an abusive liar?
You are 18……move on, this guy can't be trusted.
Divorce, get as much as you can get from him, and stop taking with your sister.
My answer is I don’t think 1 month in is too soon to bring this up because it’s obviously important to you and there’s no sense waiting until 6 months in to bring it up. It’s a dealbreaker. Bringing it up on the 1st date even wouldn’t be wrong.
I just also think you need to have a separate conversation with her about whether or not you’re exclusive. The fact that you’re not sure and haven’t brought it up gives me vibes that you’re unsure about her. That’s why I think you need to do some soul searching, decide if a serious relationship with her is something you want and go from there.
Yep fully agree with this right here.