A relationship is about trust, and you have to build that trust with time. Beginning a relationship does not mean she has to tell you everything about her. It seems she has some issues and sometimes your instincts are right, maybe something is not right. but if you force the issue it can backfire. Sometimes we need time to let sort things out, make time for yourself, and when you're calm speak with her in person about it. You have feelings too and you need to let her know.
Not necessarily that I'm giving up, but that I'm somehow doing him wrong by packing his stuff and telling him to leave.
A relationship is about trust, and you have to build that trust with time. Beginning a relationship does not mean she has to tell you everything about her. It seems she has some issues and sometimes your instincts are right, maybe something is not right. but if you force the issue it can backfire. Sometimes we need time to let sort things out, make time for yourself, and when you're calm speak with her in person about it. You have feelings too and you need to let her know.
That would be a hot yikes from me.
He’s a manipulative asshole. A sane person wouldn’t do something like this. You can do better OP, please dump him.