Funko Pops, video games, and anime stuff…. aaand he won't compromise at all? Yeah you're in a relationship with a child. He doesn't want to share a life with you, he just wants you to merge into to his. If he can't meet you in the middle here, and it's causing fights, over something as simple as allowing you to put your own personal touch on your living space, what about down the road when it's about shared finances or children or other more serious things?
Do you have a lease explicitly stating those terms? You might be better off paying for the renovations yourself so she can't claim to have equity in your house. She could argue that the renovations increased the value of the house by more than was paid so she's owed more.
Depends on what all these meetings are for. Unless a lot of time has passed it's usually not a good idea to have an ongoing friendship with an ex. But some people believe in things like “getting closure”, and while that's rarely a reality they'll still try it on occasion. In terms of hanging out with the families of exes, that's really up to the families. If a set of parents have grown close to someone their adult child was dating it wouldn't be too unusual for them to still see that person on occasion. But we can't control what our parents choose to do so that's not even really for us to render comment on.
I think if you read this back to yourself, and imagine that it wasn't you who wrote it, but a stranger, you know exactly what you would tell that person to do. Which is to get as far away from this manipulative lying cheater as possible, and never look back.
(as an aside, you should definitely get tested for STDs)
Situational awareness is an amazing thing.
Funko Pops, video games, and anime stuff…. aaand he won't compromise at all? Yeah you're in a relationship with a child. He doesn't want to share a life with you, he just wants you to merge into to his. If he can't meet you in the middle here, and it's causing fights, over something as simple as allowing you to put your own personal touch on your living space, what about down the road when it's about shared finances or children or other more serious things?
It's a bad sign for the future.
It sounds like she’s coming out of her shell and you’re reaping the benefits. Just enjoy it!
Do you have a lease explicitly stating those terms? You might be better off paying for the renovations yourself so she can't claim to have equity in your house. She could argue that the renovations increased the value of the house by more than was paid so she's owed more.
Depends on what all these meetings are for. Unless a lot of time has passed it's usually not a good idea to have an ongoing friendship with an ex. But some people believe in things like “getting closure”, and while that's rarely a reality they'll still try it on occasion. In terms of hanging out with the families of exes, that's really up to the families. If a set of parents have grown close to someone their adult child was dating it wouldn't be too unusual for them to still see that person on occasion. But we can't control what our parents choose to do so that's not even really for us to render comment on.
I think if you read this back to yourself, and imagine that it wasn't you who wrote it, but a stranger, you know exactly what you would tell that person to do. Which is to get as far away from this manipulative lying cheater as possible, and never look back.
(as an aside, you should definitely get tested for STDs)