FineFun, in addition to his unstable behaviors and anger issues, does your H show signs of having a strong abandonment fear? For example, a few months into your relationship, did he start showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other men — or try to isolate you away from your close friends and family members? He would view your spending time with friends/family as your choosing them over him. Moreover, he usually would hate being alone by himself (when he's not punishing you with icy withdrawal).
Gave our son my father's name for his middle name—it was a huge mistake. Years later, huge family fall-out and completely unexpected estrangement and now my son's middle name is somewhat of a trigger for me and I find myself not using it anymore.
Sad. I realize now I would have avoided this by using names of only deceased family, or avoiding it all together. Good luck in the compromise.
I agree with most of what ur saying I appreciate the feedback i just really need outside sources in my life, ive dealt w a lot and sat through a lot in all my relationships friends/dating/family and im just trying to do the healthy thing for me and its very hot because i never have before
Iβm so petty I would make myself puke while blowing him just to prove a point. Heβs being disgusting and lazy.
Yes that sounds toxic and very unhealthy – your legitimate feelings are being ignored.
Superstition is a hell of a drug
FineFun, in addition to his unstable behaviors and anger issues, does your H show signs of having a strong abandonment fear? For example, a few months into your relationship, did he start showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other men — or try to isolate you away from your close friends and family members? He would view your spending time with friends/family as your choosing them over him. Moreover, he usually would hate being alone by himself (when he's not punishing you with icy withdrawal).
In my opinion, using the word “but” in the same sentence as “i love you” or “i'm sorry” is not a genuine statement of love or apology.
Gave our son my father's name for his middle name—it was a huge mistake. Years later, huge family fall-out and completely unexpected estrangement and now my son's middle name is somewhat of a trigger for me and I find myself not using it anymore.
Sad. I realize now I would have avoided this by using names of only deceased family, or avoiding it all together. Good luck in the compromise.
As a gamer, it's best to find another gaming partner or someone more understanding.
I agree with most of what ur saying I appreciate the feedback i just really need outside sources in my life, ive dealt w a lot and sat through a lot in all my relationships friends/dating/family and im just trying to do the healthy thing for me and its very hot because i never have before