Girl I’m 5 years married and even I don’t take nudes with my face included, it’s just a really bad idea???? What if their phone gets hacked or stolen? You’re getting a lot of good advice in this thread but you don’t seem open to it. What’s happened to you sucks and I hope he deletes your nudes but you can use this as a learning experience.
I agree they might as well get the test one way or the other at this point, but it shouldn't be on her to rebuild the trust when she didn't do anything to break it. When it comes back that it is his child HE'S the one who is going to have to do a lot of work to repair the relationship. Unfortunately, a lot of guy's in these situations not only don't acknowledge that it's a mess they made, but they end up doubling down. “Just because the baby's mine doesn't mean you're not cheating.” “I don't know why you're upset with me now just because I randomly lost all trust in you, it's water under the bridge now.”
It's also not uncommon for them to be projecting and are the one who is actually cheating. So how is he now going to prove that he's not cheating? And I'm sure he won't be offended in the least when she asks for proof /s.
Either way, this move may very well cause the marriage to implode.
But, ya, I agree just making paternity tests mandatory would save a lot of hassle in a lot of aspects.
Welcome to the Forties……
Folks at this level of develpment are typically involve in an era of
“agonizing reappraisal”. Choices made during the 20-s and t
30-s get held up for review regarding whether the outcome has been as
expected. If those dreams, plans, methodologies, results and assessment
have been arrived at through the Bond the answer is almost Always a “Yes”,
and all is well.
However, if the Bond is Artificial or even just superficial the answer is
commonly “No” which triggers Fear (of no recovery) and its attendent
reactionary Anger.
I don't have to be Einstein ( or Freud) to know whats happening here……
but you have my sympathies……..
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Girl I’m 5 years married and even I don’t take nudes with my face included, it’s just a really bad idea???? What if their phone gets hacked or stolen? You’re getting a lot of good advice in this thread but you don’t seem open to it. What’s happened to you sucks and I hope he deletes your nudes but you can use this as a learning experience.
I agree they might as well get the test one way or the other at this point, but it shouldn't be on her to rebuild the trust when she didn't do anything to break it. When it comes back that it is his child HE'S the one who is going to have to do a lot of work to repair the relationship. Unfortunately, a lot of guy's in these situations not only don't acknowledge that it's a mess they made, but they end up doubling down. “Just because the baby's mine doesn't mean you're not cheating.” “I don't know why you're upset with me now just because I randomly lost all trust in you, it's water under the bridge now.”
It's also not uncommon for them to be projecting and are the one who is actually cheating. So how is he now going to prove that he's not cheating? And I'm sure he won't be offended in the least when she asks for proof /s.
Either way, this move may very well cause the marriage to implode.
But, ya, I agree just making paternity tests mandatory would save a lot of hassle in a lot of aspects.
I mean clearly I’m smart enough to know, I appreciate you though ♥️ giving me good advice. I hate how men are like this
I would