Privately contact the therapist and tell them you are concerned about his actions lately. Explain what's been going on. If you have conversations with him that have gone sideways in text, be ready to show them. YOU cannot help him directly, but you can help his therapist be able to give him the help they are able to give. Even if he's made you out to be the bad guy, the therapist has an obligation to give them the help they need, so knowing what goes on outside of their office could be the difference.
Well it worked for Genghis Khan…
Trust issues are a thing!
Seeking advice from internet strangers is a dangerous game to play..
What if my ex is showing signs that she still likes me? I fear that I'm throwing 10 years down the drain.
Look into sexsomnia and see if that sounds like what happened. If so, possibly speak to a therapist or doctor about it more in detail.
Wait, did you ever ask her out on a date? So she said ‘no’ and remained your crush? Could you explain?
It absolutely is inappropriate to be entertaining a conversation with your ex as a married person.
The ex is calling because he wants to smash, not because he wants to “catch up”. This is why your husband is upset, and understandably so.
Never in any man's life, has he just called an ex out of the blue to just chat. There is always a motive behind it.
Privately contact the therapist and tell them you are concerned about his actions lately. Explain what's been going on. If you have conversations with him that have gone sideways in text, be ready to show them. YOU cannot help him directly, but you can help his therapist be able to give him the help they are able to give. Even if he's made you out to be the bad guy, the therapist has an obligation to give them the help they need, so knowing what goes on outside of their office could be the difference.
Adding into #4. Don't touch it with dry fingers. Use lube. Wetter is better!
They aren’t protecting op in this situation, the fiancé is protecting the friend. Sometimes this is not objectively wrong. Sure OP has a right to know, but if friend isn’t telling then it’s not on fiancé to do it for him.