Your double standards aren't just unfair I can see exactly how is giving him flashbacks to his childhood. if your insecurities are that bad you need to seek therapy, get a counselor get the thoughts out some other way than forbidding the man from enjoying things.
Your request is not rational and you know it's not rational because you understood its absurdity when it was turned back on you.
And finally…. You not feeling good about something isn't automatically someone else's job to fix or tip toe around, it isn't your partner's job to fix every negative emotion you experience, you are emotionally immature and it is unfair to expect another person to emotionally regulate. You have some work dto do.
You seem to have a very good man, be a good woman for him.
It’s not that I am codependent on him. It’s just that I miss having friends and I know it’s both healthy for me not having someone to talk to other than him. But I love him and I dont want to leave him. I wish I could have both but I dont know how to do that without leaving one
You don’t seem like an asshole, I get where you are coming from. Is the apartment two bedroom? Is she generally a responsible chick (ie do you think she will expect you to babysit or fail to care for the baby in a timely manner?). Did you have plans to hold parties in the apartment?
When I was 18 this would have been a hot pass but now that I have a kid of my own living in an apartment with a baby was only really tough when I was tasked with getting him to go to sleep. If my wife was just my roommate it would have been a shrug, honestly.
OP, you’re failing your daughter, and ignoring the advice you’ve solicited from this subreddit, doubling down on your desire to not rock the boat prioritizing your wife and sons’ daily life. Don’t be surprised when your wife’s cruelty towards a literal child escalates as your daughter enters her teen years, and either starts acting out significant or distances herself from and outright avoids you.
How long until your sons start to bully their older half sister imitating and supporting their mother’s disgusting behavior? You’re not considering the long term relationships with your children, and will therefore slowly lose your relationship with your daughter every time you allow your wife to attempt to cut her out of the family pretending you have no power to change the situation. This is not a dynamic that resolves without you forcing your wife to reflect and change her behavior; if she cannot do so then you need to leave and create a home that’s safe emotionally for ALL your children.
You are being PARTICULARLY ridiculous.
Your double standards aren't just unfair I can see exactly how is giving him flashbacks to his childhood. if your insecurities are that bad you need to seek therapy, get a counselor get the thoughts out some other way than forbidding the man from enjoying things.
Your request is not rational and you know it's not rational because you understood its absurdity when it was turned back on you.
And finally…. You not feeling good about something isn't automatically someone else's job to fix or tip toe around, it isn't your partner's job to fix every negative emotion you experience, you are emotionally immature and it is unfair to expect another person to emotionally regulate. You have some work dto do.
You seem to have a very good man, be a good woman for him.
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It’s not that I am codependent on him. It’s just that I miss having friends and I know it’s both healthy for me not having someone to talk to other than him. But I love him and I dont want to leave him. I wish I could have both but I dont know how to do that without leaving one
You'll always be a side piece. And karma will probably come after you for ruining another woman's life.
All you cared about was sexual gratification and that's gross. You're no better than him.
You don’t seem like an asshole, I get where you are coming from. Is the apartment two bedroom? Is she generally a responsible chick (ie do you think she will expect you to babysit or fail to care for the baby in a timely manner?). Did you have plans to hold parties in the apartment?
When I was 18 this would have been a hot pass but now that I have a kid of my own living in an apartment with a baby was only really tough when I was tasked with getting him to go to sleep. If my wife was just my roommate it would have been a shrug, honestly.
Yes, and I’m a magician. This is a risky situation.
Disaster!!!!!
OP, you’re failing your daughter, and ignoring the advice you’ve solicited from this subreddit, doubling down on your desire to not rock the boat prioritizing your wife and sons’ daily life. Don’t be surprised when your wife’s cruelty towards a literal child escalates as your daughter enters her teen years, and either starts acting out significant or distances herself from and outright avoids you.
How long until your sons start to bully their older half sister imitating and supporting their mother’s disgusting behavior? You’re not considering the long term relationships with your children, and will therefore slowly lose your relationship with your daughter every time you allow your wife to attempt to cut her out of the family pretending you have no power to change the situation. This is not a dynamic that resolves without you forcing your wife to reflect and change her behavior; if she cannot do so then you need to leave and create a home that’s safe emotionally for ALL your children.
You're too dumb to decipher basic logic, reasoning or common sense.
Never mind…
!updateme!