I’m curious what do you think would happen if you stopped driving the relationship? If you stopped asking when you were going to see each other, if you stop pushing him to include you in his life? You keep saying this is his first relationship, but unless he was dropped on this planet from Mars, his girlfriend of two years shouldn’t have to beg for an invitation to his 30th birthday party. You don’t need extensive relationship experience to know that you invite your girlfriend to your 30th birthday party.
It sounds to me like you are excusing a lot of shitty behavior, and I’m not sure why. You list all these ways that you ask him to include you in his life and he doesn’t do any of them. He says yes, or fine, but then it doesn’t happen.
I don’t think this is a side chick situation, I think this is he wants only what he wants out of the relationship and what he wants is something not very deep or meaningful or committed. He doesn’t want to incorporate you into his life in any real way. And I don’t think there’s some other woman that he has incorporated into his life.
What do you get out of this relationship? How does he show up for you? How does he make you feel loved and wanted? How does he support you?
It's really sus that he lied about it like that. He could definitely be using it to DM people and hide it from you. I think it's worth at least asking him about
Seems like he likes emotionally abusing you.
You arent being too sensitive. He however is being too much of a dick.
Yet unlikely.
I’m curious what do you think would happen if you stopped driving the relationship? If you stopped asking when you were going to see each other, if you stop pushing him to include you in his life? You keep saying this is his first relationship, but unless he was dropped on this planet from Mars, his girlfriend of two years shouldn’t have to beg for an invitation to his 30th birthday party. You don’t need extensive relationship experience to know that you invite your girlfriend to your 30th birthday party.
It sounds to me like you are excusing a lot of shitty behavior, and I’m not sure why. You list all these ways that you ask him to include you in his life and he doesn’t do any of them. He says yes, or fine, but then it doesn’t happen.
I don’t think this is a side chick situation, I think this is he wants only what he wants out of the relationship and what he wants is something not very deep or meaningful or committed. He doesn’t want to incorporate you into his life in any real way. And I don’t think there’s some other woman that he has incorporated into his life.
What do you get out of this relationship? How does he show up for you? How does he make you feel loved and wanted? How does he support you?
It's really sus that he lied about it like that. He could definitely be using it to DM people and hide it from you. I think it's worth at least asking him about
Yes I'm aware and I'm waiting for someone that is probably an understands a poly relationship to actually help