All I'm reading is “My husband is an emotionally abusive, manipulative, gaslighting douchebag who takes deep pleasure in mentally torturing me, and enjoys my distress.”
Seriously, this post made me queasy. This guy is all sorts of a horror story, and the fact that he has you blaming yourself makes my head and heart hurt.
Because I want to show her that I love her unconditionally no matter what and that I promise to love and care for her even when things get tough as we have definitely seen some rough times together and I will always be by her side as support
Was this like a drunk kiss at a party in front of people because they wanted attention, or did they end up in a room together with their clothes off? Before someone tells me that gender doesn’t matter and if it was a dude I wouldn’t ask, I personally would probably judge the situations a bit differently if I’m being honest. Also, I’m not saying I would be okay with it if this were my relationship, but I’d find possible forgiveness in the former than I would the latter.
Firstly, he cheated on you whilst being utterly mediocre in all other areas. What’s he bringing to the table? (STD’s?) How is he making your life better?
Everyone has dips, but this just feels like you’re a placeholder for him to get his shit together and find someone he ‘really loves’. Then he’ll be off again following his dick to greener pastures.
The relationship being described as cordial would be the absolute kicker for me. Let him go, he seems so intent on blaming you for all his apathy and crap work-ethic, see how he gets along on his own. I suspect you drive a lot of the couples activity, household management and everything else whilst he’s a passenger mooching along. It’s ‘last talk’ time if you even want to salvage this, take care.
If you change, sometimes you go different paths than other people. Never forget that.
Your sentiment may indeed be right. All I suggested was, consider it very carefully.
I mean we're both gay men, so there's that.
All I'm reading is “My husband is an emotionally abusive, manipulative, gaslighting douchebag who takes deep pleasure in mentally torturing me, and enjoys my distress.”
Seriously, this post made me queasy. This guy is all sorts of a horror story, and the fact that he has you blaming yourself makes my head and heart hurt.
She might've forgiven you, but her parents haven't.
Because I want to show her that I love her unconditionally no matter what and that I promise to love and care for her even when things get tough as we have definitely seen some rough times together and I will always be by her side as support
Bpd isn’t an excuse to cheat don’t let her fool you into thinking that
Was this like a drunk kiss at a party in front of people because they wanted attention, or did they end up in a room together with their clothes off? Before someone tells me that gender doesn’t matter and if it was a dude I wouldn’t ask, I personally would probably judge the situations a bit differently if I’m being honest. Also, I’m not saying I would be okay with it if this were my relationship, but I’d find possible forgiveness in the former than I would the latter.
I’m not quitting my job.
That means he will be, very soon. Please be safe.
Firstly, he cheated on you whilst being utterly mediocre in all other areas. What’s he bringing to the table? (STD’s?) How is he making your life better?
Everyone has dips, but this just feels like you’re a placeholder for him to get his shit together and find someone he ‘really loves’. Then he’ll be off again following his dick to greener pastures.
The relationship being described as cordial would be the absolute kicker for me. Let him go, he seems so intent on blaming you for all his apathy and crap work-ethic, see how he gets along on his own. I suspect you drive a lot of the couples activity, household management and everything else whilst he’s a passenger mooching along. It’s ‘last talk’ time if you even want to salvage this, take care.