I stayed in three relationships. Why? Because it was, “all great except for that,” and they were, “so sorry they did it,” and, “our kids need both of their parents.”
All three relationships were garbage. All three left me emotionally and financially devastated.
In hind sight it was a mixture of ego (sunk cost) and low self esteem, (I don't want to be single).
When I found the right woman for me afterwards, I realized I was so broken that I still, at 46 years old, regress to a much younger and unwise version of myself in an attempt to avoid a fight. It sucks and it takes a lot of work to emerge from that state that I created for myself in order to tolerate their abuse of my good faith.
Cheaters can stop cheating and those cheated on can learn to trust again, but that usually comes with the cost I described.
My hindsight suggestion for you is – dump him, stay single for a while, and tell him that if after one year of celibacy (both of you) that he wants to pursue a monogamous relationship with you, you'll agree to a first date.
IĀ“m in your mid-upper age range. I wouldnĀ“t go for you just because of the different life experiences. I want smth serious, a partner that I can meet on equal footing. IĀ“d feel or fear that IĀ“d feel that I canĀ“t connect with you on deeper levels. You might wanna go party till 5AM and do the stuff I did years ago. IĀ“d feel that I canĀ“t keep up with your assumed lifestyle and I doubt you want to settle at your age.
You should tell him that the ājokesā hurt your feelings. And if he continues, then you know heās hurting your feelings on purpose. Donāt be with people who hurt your feelings on purpose.
… or he's been into his ex's best friend but couldn't get to her because she's with OP.
I stayed in three relationships. Why? Because it was, “all great except for that,” and they were, “so sorry they did it,” and, “our kids need both of their parents.”
All three relationships were garbage. All three left me emotionally and financially devastated.
In hind sight it was a mixture of ego (sunk cost) and low self esteem, (I don't want to be single).
When I found the right woman for me afterwards, I realized I was so broken that I still, at 46 years old, regress to a much younger and unwise version of myself in an attempt to avoid a fight. It sucks and it takes a lot of work to emerge from that state that I created for myself in order to tolerate their abuse of my good faith.
Cheaters can stop cheating and those cheated on can learn to trust again, but that usually comes with the cost I described.
My hindsight suggestion for you is – dump him, stay single for a while, and tell him that if after one year of celibacy (both of you) that he wants to pursue a monogamous relationship with you, you'll agree to a first date.
IĀ“m in your mid-upper age range. I wouldnĀ“t go for you just because of the different life experiences. I want smth serious, a partner that I can meet on equal footing. IĀ“d feel or fear that IĀ“d feel that I canĀ“t connect with you on deeper levels. You might wanna go party till 5AM and do the stuff I did years ago. IĀ“d feel that I canĀ“t keep up with your assumed lifestyle and I doubt you want to settle at your age.
My age range is 28-35
My BFF is a crier. Happy tears, Tuesday tears, sad story tears. Whatās worse is we work in hospice, together.
I learned to listen to her words and no necessary the cry.
Leave it. Your gf was more attuned than they were.
Wow, you guys have really cool ideas, def gon try this one out today. Hopefully, shes there today, fingers crossed. Thanks a lot for helping outā¦!
You should tell him that the ājokesā hurt your feelings. And if he continues, then you know heās hurting your feelings on purpose. Donāt be with people who hurt your feelings on purpose.