He’s trying to condition you to be ok with his behavior. Don’t let this man change beat down your confidence and make you ok with this as a new normal. He wants you to change for him when he’s the one that needs to correct his behavior.
I point out naked girls to my girlfriend and she points them out to me, too. But, she knows she’s the most important and beautiful woman in the world to me.
It sounds like he's taken it to heart, to learn and correct, he cares so he speaks, he's considering your point of view, he trusts you with that weight of a topic.
Maybe look at it as you can have confidence he won't fuel your trauma because of his past. Keep taking it out slowly
You need to leave before that mark suddenly shows up everywhere else on your body. The BF has no sense of accountability in his own actions.
If you have no one around you, there are women shelter. If you have a shared bank account or whatnot, open a new account and start stashing money to leave. And when you leave, do it when he is not there or the above will repeat.
Get out when you can and do not fall for his tricks.
At your age, with less experience in a loss like this, it took me a long time too, be patient with yourself. Set small self-improvement-type goals for yourself like: go hang out with a friend next week, or go for a run, or cook yourself a good meal. Doing it may suck, it may not even feel like it helps much. But if you keep at it, eventually you'll find the joy in things again.
Stop. There is always some place else to go. Is this the life you want? Separate your finances first and get a transfer with your job. You don’t have to stay.
He’s trying to condition you to be ok with his behavior. Don’t let this man change beat down your confidence and make you ok with this as a new normal. He wants you to change for him when he’s the one that needs to correct his behavior.
I point out naked girls to my girlfriend and she points them out to me, too. But, she knows she’s the most important and beautiful woman in the world to me.
It sounds like he's taken it to heart, to learn and correct, he cares so he speaks, he's considering your point of view, he trusts you with that weight of a topic.
Maybe look at it as you can have confidence he won't fuel your trauma because of his past. Keep taking it out slowly
12 years is a long time but you’re also young. You’ll make memories with your fiancé and hopefully other friends.
Wives are left by husbands and cheated on frequently for this sort of validation
You need to leave before that mark suddenly shows up everywhere else on your body. The BF has no sense of accountability in his own actions.
If you have no one around you, there are women shelter. If you have a shared bank account or whatnot, open a new account and start stashing money to leave. And when you leave, do it when he is not there or the above will repeat.
Get out when you can and do not fall for his tricks.
At your age, with less experience in a loss like this, it took me a long time too, be patient with yourself. Set small self-improvement-type goals for yourself like: go hang out with a friend next week, or go for a run, or cook yourself a good meal. Doing it may suck, it may not even feel like it helps much. But if you keep at it, eventually you'll find the joy in things again.
“Lots of physical touching”- Flirting for you (which you need to stop since she's married) and cheating for her. Step back, and create boundaries.
Don’t tell him you don’t want to talk because he is boring. Say you are busy and need to focus on that so can’t be texting all the time.
Oh now they’re claiming it was a swinging situation?
Stop. There is always some place else to go. Is this the life you want? Separate your finances first and get a transfer with your job. You don’t have to stay.
I agree and want to move on. But she kept guilt tripping me. Wanted to see if others think I was reasonable to clear my conscience.
My company allows “domestic partnerships” for people who have lived together for at least a year.