The first thing I would say is learn how to put your emotions into words. Listen to some podcasts on emotional intelligence and empathy. Some people are more emotionally forward and feel all the feelings and have an easy time talking about them and other people are more intellectual where you can think through the issues or situations and not have any real emotional attachment and there's not anything necessarily wrong with that, but when you meet the more emotional people you and they might feel somewhat disconnected. Dive into that emotional realm and see what you can learn. Through that you will gain greater self awareness. Good luck on your journey!
We both want to work it out but don’t know how…
No, you don't. You want to work it out, she wants to continue in her comfortable marriage to her doormat husband while she continues sleeping with other men any time she feels like it.
You are delusional if you think this can be salvaged. She lies to you and cheats on you constantly and without any significant remorse or changes to her lifestyle. If you want to stay married, you have to continue convincing yourself you're not bothered by the cheating. Because she is telling you very clearly with her actions that she's not going to stop.
No. It is not reality. It’s reality for shitty men, not men in general.
I don't expect her to. I'm just pointing out the gaps I'm noticing.
idk what are your thoughts?
The first thing I would say is learn how to put your emotions into words. Listen to some podcasts on emotional intelligence and empathy. Some people are more emotionally forward and feel all the feelings and have an easy time talking about them and other people are more intellectual where you can think through the issues or situations and not have any real emotional attachment and there's not anything necessarily wrong with that, but when you meet the more emotional people you and they might feel somewhat disconnected. Dive into that emotional realm and see what you can learn. Through that you will gain greater self awareness. Good luck on your journey!
Context brother context.
What do you not find attractive about her and what do you find attractive?
We both want to work it out but don’t know how…
No, you don't. You want to work it out, she wants to continue in her comfortable marriage to her doormat husband while she continues sleeping with other men any time she feels like it.
You are delusional if you think this can be salvaged. She lies to you and cheats on you constantly and without any significant remorse or changes to her lifestyle. If you want to stay married, you have to continue convincing yourself you're not bothered by the cheating. Because she is telling you very clearly with her actions that she's not going to stop.