Bi person here. Bisexual people are not instinctively into open relationships any more than straight or gay people are. Regardless of the sex of the person either of you is attracted to, and regardless of whether or not your husband wants to explore his newfound identity by fucking men, you both originally signed up for monogamy, and now he's changing the rules because it benefits him. If you don't want to open the relationship, if this is a dealbreaker for you, if this is killing you, you have every right to say so beause this is not what you agreed to. If he wants to keep on as he is, then you may have arrived at an impasse and need to move on. If you do decide that you can't tolerate this, don't let him pull the 'you're biphobic' or 'you're invalidating my sexuality' card, either. He can fuck whoever he wants, he just doesn't get to fuck whoever he wants and stay married to you.
I sounds to me like this is a kink of his, and not necessarily about jealousy or insecurities. I’m betting he’s getting off to listening and or watching you guys and girlfriend knows this.
The problem is that he’s breaking a very hot boundary you have set and girlfriend is allowing it. You have a girlfriend problem, and you need to make sure she knows this is a deal breaker for you and can’t continue.
She did lie before why she couldn’t go on dates with me in the past, that sucked.
One time she said, “hey honey I won’t have much money for our anniversary I spent a lot on his (her bff) ticket for this convention I invited him to.”
I found it odd since me and her would chill, have sex, get food, but that is all we would do. I would plan dates, most would fall through and revert to sex, food, tv or she would say no. On special occasions she would say yes, like when I graduated but any other time no. She is a home body but the thing is, she does ask me to dates and when she does go to concerts, amusement parks, conventions she asks Nate.
To be fair, she did take us to Disney (her mom offered), we traveled a lot too, this was the summer it was awesome. I did go to a concert with her too. But seemingly after the summer she stopped asking me to things or dates. I get school was busy and stuff but it seemed odd the effort difference. Maybe I was just tweaking out. Idk man, I think I was just insecure about it all. There were just times she made me feel like she would rather hangout with other guys than me and that destroyed me and questioned my worth. I felt like a failure
After reading your post I hope you’re okay Quite often after women who been abused forget that basic respect and general kindness is not something that is rare. Your current partner shows abusive tendencies, maybe not physical but financial which can be just as dangerous the first sign was him asking for your financial details. And once you found something to be excited about he gaslit and accused you of not being responsible when this is your money and you are allowed to spend on whatever you like. Here is some advice, quietly leave this relationship by creating another bank account with a different bank set all communications to your email even create a whole new email and do not save the information on any devices ensure that your password is something entirely different and put a some of that money you earn aside into this rainy day account. If you’re not employed try to get a job any job bc being employed is much better than not having your own income. When you have enough money and when he isn’t there find a new place and leave.
He was a top athlete until he was 20. During college he did a lot of MMA. Almost 3 years ago he started working full-time, since then his physical health went downhill.
He goes to training twice a week since a couple of weeks, as he joined a new footbalm club. Wich is great. But due to his excess weighr and lack of training he puts a lot of strain on his joints, so he sometimes must rest for a couple of days or week, hemming his progress.
And he still hasn't improved his eating habits. He does not eat unhealthy per se, as he cooks his own meals with fresh ingredients. It's the size. When he makes pasta for himself, he could feed an entire family. I think this is his biggest issue.
When you date someone who is chronically ill you agree to be their caretaker because chronic illness cam(and usually does) get worse to the point the person can’t take care of themselves. You knew she had these issues when you started dating her, you knew you might have to become her caretaker if her illness progressed. But you still dated her knowing this. And now her illness and progressed but it’s too much for YOU? How tf do you think she feels? Somehow you’ve made her illness all about you when SHES’S the one dealing with it. Honestly you sound like a terrible person. And I feel terrible that she has to go through with this. Seek help and be better
Communicate with her you would like to cum, maybe for you to come faster add more foreplay
If you are doing oral on her she can do oral on you too
Maybe try that
It all comes down to communication
Bi person here. Bisexual people are not instinctively into open relationships any more than straight or gay people are. Regardless of the sex of the person either of you is attracted to, and regardless of whether or not your husband wants to explore his newfound identity by fucking men, you both originally signed up for monogamy, and now he's changing the rules because it benefits him. If you don't want to open the relationship, if this is a dealbreaker for you, if this is killing you, you have every right to say so beause this is not what you agreed to. If he wants to keep on as he is, then you may have arrived at an impasse and need to move on. If you do decide that you can't tolerate this, don't let him pull the 'you're biphobic' or 'you're invalidating my sexuality' card, either. He can fuck whoever he wants, he just doesn't get to fuck whoever he wants and stay married to you.
I sounds to me like this is a kink of his, and not necessarily about jealousy or insecurities. I’m betting he’s getting off to listening and or watching you guys and girlfriend knows this.
The problem is that he’s breaking a very hot boundary you have set and girlfriend is allowing it. You have a girlfriend problem, and you need to make sure she knows this is a deal breaker for you and can’t continue.
She did lie before why she couldn’t go on dates with me in the past, that sucked.
One time she said, “hey honey I won’t have much money for our anniversary I spent a lot on his (her bff) ticket for this convention I invited him to.”
I found it odd since me and her would chill, have sex, get food, but that is all we would do. I would plan dates, most would fall through and revert to sex, food, tv or she would say no. On special occasions she would say yes, like when I graduated but any other time no. She is a home body but the thing is, she does ask me to dates and when she does go to concerts, amusement parks, conventions she asks Nate.
To be fair, she did take us to Disney (her mom offered), we traveled a lot too, this was the summer it was awesome. I did go to a concert with her too. But seemingly after the summer she stopped asking me to things or dates. I get school was busy and stuff but it seemed odd the effort difference. Maybe I was just tweaking out. Idk man, I think I was just insecure about it all. There were just times she made me feel like she would rather hangout with other guys than me and that destroyed me and questioned my worth. I felt like a failure
A lot of times you can get a quick and favourable divorce if your spouse cheated.
And she sent him photo proof. I hope he takes her to the cleaners!!
I know… but it is what is is…
After reading your post I hope you’re okay Quite often after women who been abused forget that basic respect and general kindness is not something that is rare. Your current partner shows abusive tendencies, maybe not physical but financial which can be just as dangerous the first sign was him asking for your financial details. And once you found something to be excited about he gaslit and accused you of not being responsible when this is your money and you are allowed to spend on whatever you like. Here is some advice, quietly leave this relationship by creating another bank account with a different bank set all communications to your email even create a whole new email and do not save the information on any devices ensure that your password is something entirely different and put a some of that money you earn aside into this rainy day account. If you’re not employed try to get a job any job bc being employed is much better than not having your own income. When you have enough money and when he isn’t there find a new place and leave.
He was a top athlete until he was 20. During college he did a lot of MMA. Almost 3 years ago he started working full-time, since then his physical health went downhill.
He goes to training twice a week since a couple of weeks, as he joined a new footbalm club. Wich is great. But due to his excess weighr and lack of training he puts a lot of strain on his joints, so he sometimes must rest for a couple of days or week, hemming his progress.
And he still hasn't improved his eating habits. He does not eat unhealthy per se, as he cooks his own meals with fresh ingredients. It's the size. When he makes pasta for himself, he could feed an entire family. I think this is his biggest issue.
Because there is an opportunity already so i grabbed it
When you date someone who is chronically ill you agree to be their caretaker because chronic illness cam(and usually does) get worse to the point the person can’t take care of themselves. You knew she had these issues when you started dating her, you knew you might have to become her caretaker if her illness progressed. But you still dated her knowing this. And now her illness and progressed but it’s too much for YOU? How tf do you think she feels? Somehow you’ve made her illness all about you when SHES’S the one dealing with it. Honestly you sound like a terrible person. And I feel terrible that she has to go through with this. Seek help and be better
You did everything I would’ve done. Keep him blocked
So you’re just going to keep letting her little sister flirt with you til she finds out and loses her shit?