You are an incredibly selfish, toxic, manipulative person and I’m so glad your ex has gotten away from you. You’ve spent most of your relationship trying to drive a wedge between him and his daughter, playing childish games and using your child as a weapon to keep him with you. It’s pathetic. I just wish he’d put his kid first and file for full custody, because you’re clearly not a fit mother.
He doesn’t owe you shit, and has every right to move on. Please get a ton of therapy and start putting your child first.
/u/mostofthebadthings, telling her “explain it so I understand it” comes across very passive-aggressive. It heavily implies that you know her complaint but don't accept it as valid, and were telling her to “make this make sense!”
If you were serious about understanding her thoughts and feelings, you really needed to lead with a sincere, heartfelt apology for being so inattentive to her complaint all these years, and for being so easily influenced that you've sacrificed her happiness to make your parents happy. Start there.
Also, are you sure you don't remember what started all this? The wedding they invited you to but not her, perhaps? Something else? Are you as oblivious as you portray, or are you willfully ignorant so you can pander to everyone's contradictory demands at once?
The last thing that jumps out at me is that you portray yourself as a doormat, but ultimately you're willing to fight with your wife in order to please your parents. That makes me wonder how much of your “people pleaser” personality is just an excuse.
You are an incredibly selfish, toxic, manipulative person and I’m so glad your ex has gotten away from you. You’ve spent most of your relationship trying to drive a wedge between him and his daughter, playing childish games and using your child as a weapon to keep him with you. It’s pathetic. I just wish he’d put his kid first and file for full custody, because you’re clearly not a fit mother.
He doesn’t owe you shit, and has every right to move on. Please get a ton of therapy and start putting your child first.
Get the child OUT. Call the damn cops!! Why are you waiting
THIS!
/u/mostofthebadthings, telling her “explain it so I understand it” comes across very passive-aggressive. It heavily implies that you know her complaint but don't accept it as valid, and were telling her to “make this make sense!”
If you were serious about understanding her thoughts and feelings, you really needed to lead with a sincere, heartfelt apology for being so inattentive to her complaint all these years, and for being so easily influenced that you've sacrificed her happiness to make your parents happy. Start there.
Also, are you sure you don't remember what started all this? The wedding they invited you to but not her, perhaps? Something else? Are you as oblivious as you portray, or are you willfully ignorant so you can pander to everyone's contradictory demands at once?
The last thing that jumps out at me is that you portray yourself as a doormat, but ultimately you're willing to fight with your wife in order to please your parents. That makes me wonder how much of your “people pleaser” personality is just an excuse.
Dont bring a baby into a shitty situation
How about don't date a guy half again your age?
Bro you are NOT ready to date.