My husband fell asleep and woke up to our gay friend fondling my husband’s penis through his underwear. The friend had pulled my husband’s pants down while he was sleeping.
Words along the lines of 'It is my understanding that you sexually assaulted my husband and obviously we won't be talking again.'
He sold you on a lie of a relationship. Whatever you have now, is not what you will have going forward- both emotionally because of this lie and the fact that he now has a child with his ex-gf.
He didn’t tell you for months, instead he let you continue to develop/ deepen your feelings. He was trying to make it harder for you to walk away.
Also, chances of ex staying ex are like slim to zero.
Then continue to respect it. You are asking how to circumvent her clear “no,” and that's not respectful at all. Whatever her reason for rejecting you, she has made it clear she's not interested in talking to you. You've already asked her once after being rejected initially and she still said no. She doesn't want to talk to you.
It doesn't matter if you felt a connection you want to pursue, she does not. No means no.
It sounds like she’s cheating on you and is sick of sneaking around, honestly. I’d tell her it’s a full dealbreaker for you and hire a lawyer
My husband fell asleep and woke up to our gay friend fondling my husband’s penis through his underwear. The friend had pulled my husband’s pants down while he was sleeping.
Words along the lines of 'It is my understanding that you sexually assaulted my husband and obviously we won't be talking again.'
Leave.
You should have left after the first instance.
If you continue to stay you are being stupid, and deserve the unhappy life that will follow.
Oh now they’re claiming it was a swinging situation?
He sold you on a lie of a relationship. Whatever you have now, is not what you will have going forward- both emotionally because of this lie and the fact that he now has a child with his ex-gf.
He didn’t tell you for months, instead he let you continue to develop/ deepen your feelings. He was trying to make it harder for you to walk away.
Also, chances of ex staying ex are like slim to zero.
Would you feel comfortable gifting him a prostate massager toy? That could open up the conversation and give you a reason to bring it up later.
She was nice, yet firm, and I respect that.
Then continue to respect it. You are asking how to circumvent her clear “no,” and that's not respectful at all. Whatever her reason for rejecting you, she has made it clear she's not interested in talking to you. You've already asked her once after being rejected initially and she still said no. She doesn't want to talk to you.
It doesn't matter if you felt a connection you want to pursue, she does not. No means no.