If he is consistently gaining weight, it is likely there is a psychological issue or a medical issue- folks do not normally just put on a lot of weight over a short period of time.
I would not tell him that you find him physically unattractive because of xyz. Would tell him that the lack of a job and sedentary lifestyle is not conducive to your values and that you are concerned about his health. Tell him the combination make you lose interest in the relationship and is affecting your feelings.
Telling him that he is unattractive is too damaging and almost never motivates healthy approaches to weight reduction. Address the behaviors, not the result of the behaviors.
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If he is consistently gaining weight, it is likely there is a psychological issue or a medical issue- folks do not normally just put on a lot of weight over a short period of time.
I would not tell him that you find him physically unattractive because of xyz. Would tell him that the lack of a job and sedentary lifestyle is not conducive to your values and that you are concerned about his health. Tell him the combination make you lose interest in the relationship and is affecting your feelings.
Telling him that he is unattractive is too damaging and almost never motivates healthy approaches to weight reduction. Address the behaviors, not the result of the behaviors.