fight over the smallest of things, get riled up over each others perception of events of a situation, and bring up how we have separately wronged each other all the time.
I thought this was reason enough, already. And then you added he sexism, control and him berating you.
You're nor being too harsh or unforgiving. Who wants to live! this way??
What does she want? You’ve talked about her being abused, and her grandparents taking care of her; but what has she expressed? Like healing from abuse and taking a stand against your abusers is a process, and she certainly will need support. You don’t have to forgive people who abuse people you love. You can be no contact with them. But she’s the big factor in this. What are her desires? Does she want the people around her taking care of her? Does she want you paying her way? I know when I escaped my abusive situation I wanted nothing more than my independence, I wanted to know I could make it on my own. She could be at a similar point, she could be testing the waters and learning what she’s actually capable of. And that’s a process you have to go through before you can really cut off your abusers. She may need a different kind of support than the kind you are thinking of
“Neither of us have anyone we could ask to be a roommate”
Tough question for sure.
fight over the smallest of things, get riled up over each others perception of events of a situation, and bring up how we have separately wronged each other all the time.
I thought this was reason enough, already. And then you added he sexism, control and him berating you.
You're nor being too harsh or unforgiving. Who wants to live! this way??
I love him so much and I feel for what he is going through ? I try to support him without enabling but I can’t differentiate anymore
What does she want? You’ve talked about her being abused, and her grandparents taking care of her; but what has she expressed? Like healing from abuse and taking a stand against your abusers is a process, and she certainly will need support. You don’t have to forgive people who abuse people you love. You can be no contact with them. But she’s the big factor in this. What are her desires? Does she want the people around her taking care of her? Does she want you paying her way? I know when I escaped my abusive situation I wanted nothing more than my independence, I wanted to know I could make it on my own. She could be at a similar point, she could be testing the waters and learning what she’s actually capable of. And that’s a process you have to go through before you can really cut off your abusers. She may need a different kind of support than the kind you are thinking of