I wonder how well your husband would have taken it if a male friend of yours had bought you a sex toy?
I doubt he’d be as cool and reasoned about it as you are being now. That’s not sarcasm, I think you’d handled this really well as I’d be fucking livid. Sleeping on sofa livid.
He is incredibly manipulative and he displays all the classic emotional abuse markers. He’s trying to isolate you from your family and make your life entirely about him. Leave him and spend Christmas with your family. There’s tonnes of great content live! about narcissistic abuse and it’s worth reading up on it so you can recognise the red flags next time! Once you read up on it you’ll be floored at how much of it you recognise. Good luck!
Seriously. It’s only a matter of time before she turns the sons against her too. Then his poor daughter is dealing with an entire house full of bullies, and the only person defending her doesn’t actually do anything besides say “stop that.”
I had a boyfriend once share a hard picture of me with a friend, that was the first red flag that I ignored. He continued to not respect me as a person and the kinds of harm he was willing to do escalated overtime until it was eventually a full on abusive relationship. I'm not saying that anyone who does something like that is definitely an abuser bc it's not that simple but I am telling you that when people show you who they are believe them. This person doesn't legitimately respect you or he just would not have done that and do you really want to stay trapped in a relationship without basic respect? This isn't something you should move on from. Boundaries are how we love and respect ourselves, love and respect yourself enough to stand up to this and say no I will not be treated this way and I will not stay with someone who treats me this way.
I wonder how well your husband would have taken it if a male friend of yours had bought you a sex toy?
I doubt he’d be as cool and reasoned about it as you are being now. That’s not sarcasm, I think you’d handled this really well as I’d be fucking livid. Sleeping on sofa livid.
He is incredibly manipulative and he displays all the classic emotional abuse markers. He’s trying to isolate you from your family and make your life entirely about him. Leave him and spend Christmas with your family. There’s tonnes of great content live! about narcissistic abuse and it’s worth reading up on it so you can recognise the red flags next time! Once you read up on it you’ll be floored at how much of it you recognise. Good luck!
She’s not his ex.
Seriously. It’s only a matter of time before she turns the sons against her too. Then his poor daughter is dealing with an entire house full of bullies, and the only person defending her doesn’t actually do anything besides say “stop that.”
I had a boyfriend once share a hard picture of me with a friend, that was the first red flag that I ignored. He continued to not respect me as a person and the kinds of harm he was willing to do escalated overtime until it was eventually a full on abusive relationship. I'm not saying that anyone who does something like that is definitely an abuser bc it's not that simple but I am telling you that when people show you who they are believe them. This person doesn't legitimately respect you or he just would not have done that and do you really want to stay trapped in a relationship without basic respect? This isn't something you should move on from. Boundaries are how we love and respect ourselves, love and respect yourself enough to stand up to this and say no I will not be treated this way and I will not stay with someone who treats me this way.
Oh… if readers got one dollar every time Redditors complained about shitty things in their “amazing” relationship…!
NO, your relationship is NOT amazing.
He is selfish.
And as he is sexually selfish he is either bady lacking the most basic sexual skills.
Or interest in his partner.
What manifests in bed manifests elsewhere in the relationship also.
As one isn't otherwise unselfish who gets selfish in bed all of a sudden!