I had the same conversation with him in the days surrounding this catalyst convo, he doesn’t remember much of it. He wasn’t happy, but as I pointed out to him: he wasn’t there again. After explaining everything when he came home with this, he understood my actions, he wants to contact the specialist himself, I’ve said come to the appointments- but he won’t take the time off work.
He won’t stand up to his family, I’ve had to point out recently that he is a dad himself, and his son needs to take precedence over everyone else. I was the one that would do it, but I’m done now. I’m not stepping in anymore, because that’s part of the problem, I’m gonna let him sort things himself, I’m just gonna try and focus on my mental health and my kids (I have others from previous marriage).
Learn some holds, ways of restricting his movements like an arm bar. That way you don't have to hit him but you can show that you'd have the upper hand if it went down like that… He may not react well to his son eclipsing him.. which is what the real issue is.
he’s trying to isolate you from your mum. this is a huge warning sign of abuse and narcissistic tendencies. yep, your mum is right. good luck and be safe
he's definitely the jerk for that particular moment but like in usual reddit fashion based on one example they are completely going in on him but i wonder has she done this in other ways the've may have pushed him i tried to look at both sides before giving advice
I had the same conversation with him in the days surrounding this catalyst convo, he doesn’t remember much of it. He wasn’t happy, but as I pointed out to him: he wasn’t there again. After explaining everything when he came home with this, he understood my actions, he wants to contact the specialist himself, I’ve said come to the appointments- but he won’t take the time off work.
He won’t stand up to his family, I’ve had to point out recently that he is a dad himself, and his son needs to take precedence over everyone else. I was the one that would do it, but I’m done now. I’m not stepping in anymore, because that’s part of the problem, I’m gonna let him sort things himself, I’m just gonna try and focus on my mental health and my kids (I have others from previous marriage).
Learn some holds, ways of restricting his movements like an arm bar. That way you don't have to hit him but you can show that you'd have the upper hand if it went down like that… He may not react well to his son eclipsing him.. which is what the real issue is.
he’s trying to isolate you from your mum. this is a huge warning sign of abuse and narcissistic tendencies. yep, your mum is right. good luck and be safe
Or they were or people they new were directly involved
Yeah it's not a good look
he's definitely the jerk for that particular moment but like in usual reddit fashion based on one example they are completely going in on him but i wonder has she done this in other ways the've may have pushed him i tried to look at both sides before giving advice