Tbh I’ve been dealing with a similar situation. Not so much that she brags about how good somebody else was but casually mentions past encounters in conversation as if she forgets that I’m there, it really bothers me and everytime I bring it up she’s good for a few months and then she forgets again.
I think this is the most likely reason, I heard after our breakup that she was in a very abusive relationship, I didn't care at the time so I didn't ask for more information.
Because I was the only one taking care of this relationship, she probably thought she deserved more, she was the queen and I was her servant. I don't want to go back to that sh1t after how successful my second relationship was
Well then OP shouldn't be posting on Reddit and should be discussing this with a therapist – if she doesn't want BS diagnosis.
People are going to speak from their experiance, interpretations and worldview and give their perception of the dynamics – that's what Reddit is all about. OP doesn't have to take these opinions and assumptions on board.
Ultimately, in my experience, therapy will explore the potential trauma bond that draws her to this relationship. In (potential) DV, power and control dynamics its all about safety and urgency. Safety is paramount!
Max out your life insurance and get accident insurance if your spouse doesn't work. That's the only thing I can think of.
Dump the bf. This is an easy one.
Tbh I’ve been dealing with a similar situation. Not so much that she brags about how good somebody else was but casually mentions past encounters in conversation as if she forgets that I’m there, it really bothers me and everytime I bring it up she’s good for a few months and then she forgets again.
I think this is the most likely reason, I heard after our breakup that she was in a very abusive relationship, I didn't care at the time so I didn't ask for more information.
Because I was the only one taking care of this relationship, she probably thought she deserved more, she was the queen and I was her servant. I don't want to go back to that sh1t after how successful my second relationship was
Well then OP shouldn't be posting on Reddit and should be discussing this with a therapist – if she doesn't want BS diagnosis.
People are going to speak from their experiance, interpretations and worldview and give their perception of the dynamics – that's what Reddit is all about. OP doesn't have to take these opinions and assumptions on board.
Ultimately, in my experience, therapy will explore the potential trauma bond that draws her to this relationship. In (potential) DV, power and control dynamics its all about safety and urgency. Safety is paramount!
Love “bang maid”, using that!