I understand the disrespect and hurt … Getting a bachelors isn't easy & art is based natural talents, and the effort of developing that skill.
Art, Design, Music… Etc…. All impactful or we wouldn't care about restoration and maintaining of “doodles” (/s) from hundreds of years ago…. We wouldn't care about traditional clothing or traditional way of making things. We wouldn't care about concerts, movies, showcases, collections, cosplay, decorated focaccia bread..
I'm not sure it's a disrespect worth of ending the engagement, but I do think it's an issue that needs to be resolved before getting married.
It is necessary to point out ~just~ how messy (aka unhealthy)it is because while you may acknowledge it, you aren't letting it stop you. You recognize this is unhealthy, but you don't do anything to stop the toxicity.
You ask for advice, im advising that you realize ~how~ messy (aka unhealthy) this situation is and use that as motivation to get the courage to pause this.
You were on a break. You were not together. It's pretty clear this relationship has run its course, and you guys probably should have just broken up, instead of trying this two-week “break” nonsense. But it's nude to move on from someone with whom we have a lot of history and emotional entanglement, even when we know it's time, and sometimes we just need that nudge to finally push us into doing the right-but-difficult thing. So maybe this other person was the nudge, and now you can finally go your separate ways. Your body is just telling you what your mind isn't ready to accept
You do not need his agreement. Make that very very clear – you do NOT need his agreement. If he's not ok with that, you're 19. Move on.
I understand the disrespect and hurt … Getting a bachelors isn't easy & art is based natural talents, and the effort of developing that skill.
Art, Design, Music… Etc…. All impactful or we wouldn't care about restoration and maintaining of “doodles” (/s) from hundreds of years ago…. We wouldn't care about traditional clothing or traditional way of making things. We wouldn't care about concerts, movies, showcases, collections, cosplay, decorated focaccia bread..
I'm not sure it's a disrespect worth of ending the engagement, but I do think it's an issue that needs to be resolved before getting married.
It is necessary to point out ~just~ how messy (aka unhealthy)it is because while you may acknowledge it, you aren't letting it stop you. You recognize this is unhealthy, but you don't do anything to stop the toxicity.
You ask for advice, im advising that you realize ~how~ messy (aka unhealthy) this situation is and use that as motivation to get the courage to pause this.
You were on a break. You were not together. It's pretty clear this relationship has run its course, and you guys probably should have just broken up, instead of trying this two-week “break” nonsense. But it's nude to move on from someone with whom we have a lot of history and emotional entanglement, even when we know it's time, and sometimes we just need that nudge to finally push us into doing the right-but-difficult thing. So maybe this other person was the nudge, and now you can finally go your separate ways. Your body is just telling you what your mind isn't ready to accept