Only for now, I just don’t know what else to say. Is there anything I could possibly say to him or do after this? I’m actually dumbfounded and at a loss of words – a bit in shock. Any help is appreciated how to go forward with this!
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I know I’m not happy in my marriage and obviously I can’t love my husband after what I did.
If you don't want judgment, what do you want?It seems you cheated in order to convince yourself that you don't love your husband anymore.
He was very controlling for the first 6/7 years of our marriage. … He’s changed a lot since then mostly because I’ve threatened to leave. However, his past behaviour has left me traumatised and stressed and questioning whether I want a future with someone who would treat me this way. We’ve been arguing a lot recently and I feel like my feelings have changed. I don’t feel supported or loved from him. Although he’s changed a lot, there’s always a part of that controlling behaviour that comes back from time to time but hints of it and not the drunk shouty way that it used to.
Are you saying you were happier with him before he started to change for the better?
If she told you conditions needing to be met, okay. But it sounds like you put up invisible goal posts up hit bit as far as she knows, you're both on the same page about not wanting kids. It's not fair to either of you to dance around the topic with percentages. Kids are not a thing to compromise on.
So.. this is weird to say. Arguably, my brain processes faster than other brains in a standard array. Is what it is. My wife (approaching 20 years) does not process information as fast as I do. I literally do not care. Not about my friends, my mom, my siblings, my wife. It's just a process. They can still hold a conversation, you're still smart, etc. He probably just processes faster so he holds onto more info. If I had to guess, he cares absolutely 0%. He loves you. YOU. Not your brain. Not your ability to pretend to be a super AI. You. Run with it.
Don't confuse frog with toad . There's a difference between frogs and toads. A lot of little frogs are cute. One of my ex-girlfriend's nickname was Froggy.
He isn’t interested.
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Only for now, I just don’t know what else to say. Is there anything I could possibly say to him or do after this? I’m actually dumbfounded and at a loss of words – a bit in shock. Any help is appreciated how to go forward with this!
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Multiple times!! We’ve talked about this and only thing I get is that he will try to be better, but no change.
I know I’m not happy in my marriage and obviously I can’t love my husband after what I did.
If you don't want judgment, what do you want?It seems you cheated in order to convince yourself that you don't love your husband anymore.
He was very controlling for the first 6/7 years of our marriage. … He’s changed a lot since then mostly because I’ve threatened to leave. However, his past behaviour has left me traumatised and stressed and questioning whether I want a future with someone who would treat me this way. We’ve been arguing a lot recently and I feel like my feelings have changed. I don’t feel supported or loved from him. Although he’s changed a lot, there’s always a part of that controlling behaviour that comes back from time to time but hints of it and not the drunk shouty way that it used to.
Are you saying you were happier with him before he started to change for the better?
If she told you conditions needing to be met, okay. But it sounds like you put up invisible goal posts up hit bit as far as she knows, you're both on the same page about not wanting kids. It's not fair to either of you to dance around the topic with percentages. Kids are not a thing to compromise on.
YTA.
Oh sorry wrong sub. Looks back at the post
YTA.
Just glue a bunch of dick pics in your journal.
So.. this is weird to say. Arguably, my brain processes faster than other brains in a standard array. Is what it is. My wife (approaching 20 years) does not process information as fast as I do. I literally do not care. Not about my friends, my mom, my siblings, my wife. It's just a process. They can still hold a conversation, you're still smart, etc. He probably just processes faster so he holds onto more info. If I had to guess, he cares absolutely 0%. He loves you. YOU. Not your brain. Not your ability to pretend to be a super AI. You. Run with it.
Don't confuse frog with toad . There's a difference between frogs and toads. A lot of little frogs are cute. One of my ex-girlfriend's nickname was Froggy.
Okay bud. When you learn to read come back