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She told you nothing because there was nothing to tell you. What, you expect her to tell you about every guy that she comes across, if not she's not trustworthy?
Depending on your family situation it’s not always easy to get babysitting arranged for a night. It’s definitely usually more complex than something like dinner reservations which is another typical birthday thing.
Ya I've expressed that it's a personal mental issue and not a physical issue with us. When I do say that it's when we're already discussing it and I think she hears it as an excuse I'm coming up with after the fact as opposed to preemptively expressing myself before we get to that point. Thank you for the reassurance.
Maybe you're thinking too much about it. I can sympathize with that, accounting for your past traumatic experience, totally understandable. My first inclination (as a straight-cis-36M) is that you may be thinking too hard about climaxing and this affects your mood / emotional state, which then affects your physical ability to achieve climax. I think I have experience with this with my GF.
For males, achieving orgasm is pretty straight forward and simple. We get horny, we get very hot, we have sex, we cum, then we're out for around 10 minutes or so, at least, on average. For females, I've read that achieving climax can often be different…like females tend to need more than simply the physical aspects of sex to achieve orgasm and can orgasm multiple times during sex. Of course, this is not saying “all women”, but in my experience, I can say this is true with all the women I've been with, especially my current GF. My GF and I have had sex hundreds of times, if not a thousand at this point (been together 12 years), and I can recall the times when our sex didn't make her reach climax. During those times, we may have forced sex…like, we weren't really feeling it, but did it anyway since it's part of what we do regularly (IE: during our Saturday Netflix and chill nights).
In the times she didn't cum, or had a really hot time doing so, I could tell she was forcing it or thinking about it too much. I'd try kissing her, whispering in her ear, and gently touching her, what we call “non-G-spot” body parts, like very lightly running my fingers on the back of neck, but to no avail. I'd orgasm, but she wouldn't, no matter how nude she tried, even while using a vibrator or viciously rubbing her you-know-what. We'd be super apologetic to each other during those times, thinking back at it now. Almost every time we have sex, she climaxes at least 3 times, but there have been a few times where she doesn't, and the times she doesn't, it's more to do with mood more than anything.
TL:DR — My suggestion is to not force it, don't try to force yourself to orgasm, don't think too much about it. Online in the moment, and feel completely loved up by your BF. Don't think, just feel. Make sure the time is right.
Lol you guys really do a lot of mental gymnastics on this sub. What you call fear shame and rejection is actually constructive criticism and we’ve been very happy for 8 years together so GFYS
You brought up an interesting topic (redpill). When I was at my lowest and loneliest, I took to that ideology for a couple of months. I'm not very proud of that.
At that time I was dissapointed of my “relationships” with women. I had a feeling that the vast majority of them were just playing with me and leading me on, did terrible things behind their partners' back and were ready to ditch them the minute they find someone better. I grew bitter and thought long-term relationships cannot last. And that is exactly what Redpill is based on. Treat them bad, otherwise they will use you and ditch you for someone else.
I'm so happy to escape that community, but then, as shown in the comments, I might turned to the “Rescuer” role in relationships which isn't good either.
How did the Redpill ideology showed in your relationship?
Lifelong migraines sufferer here and I got news for him nothing you do is gonna make your migraines any better. Have you been checked for sleep apnea because you could be having headaches because you have sleep apnea. I used to have sleep apnea until I lost some weight and I don’t have to use a CPAP machine anymore, sadly, my migraines won’t go away
We are early in our relationship (4 months) and hadn't really clearly said, “hey sexting other people is inappropriate”
After becoming official boyfriend-girlfriend, there are many behaviors that for me fall into the “goes without saying” category, and sexting other people of one of those things. Also, fuck him for getting angry at you.
Once that ice cold fury hits your heart, it's impossible to look at the person the same way again.
Yes, you can delay the break-up with counseling IF you really want to get to the root of his issues, but, if he's unwilling to even do the minimum of effort as although he fucked up and he's embarrassed it gives you his level of respect he views you with.
Maybe white knuckle for a year so you have the best exit plan ready for you and your child so you can leave with your head held high?
Thanks. I think I just needed to put it out into the universe, and have someone just tell me to go for it. I laid it on a little heavier, and we met for drinks earlier. I also just dropped her off from a date that went really well!
What your wife is doing is abuse. You are allowing it to happen. She is a child, grow a fucking pair and protect her. If you refuse to, give her mother custody so she does not have to be subjected to your wife’s cruelty. Your daughter will have life long consequences from your wife’s actions.
I met my partner on-line, long distance. We've been living together in-person for almost a decade now. I think some people get into on-line LDR stuff planning to never meet and that seems more common nowadays, maybe that was the case with her (kinda strange you hadn't met yet), but there will always be people who say that relationships that start live! aren't relationships. That is pretty sad for them, very often they are old-fashioned or simply unhappy and feel this is one of the few circumstances they can comfortably look down upon.
There's absolutely no way to send her an anonymous message. And considering we're all coworkers (dumb, I know) i really feel it could blow up in my face if he does lie and manipulate her. There's no good way to approach her either. If she isn't actually sleeping with him, I just outed my business to a coworker that regularly works with him. She could tell him and he might get angry and go after me in one way or another. If she is, well, he could've already filled her head with lies about me. Or he might as soon as I talk to her. I don't know her well enough to know that she wouldn't tell everyone else. I also feel like there's a possibility he would start a smear campaign against me to all our coworkers if he found out that I tried telling her.
I just see waaaay too many things that could possibly go wrong. I would rather just quietly move on. She'll find out eventually what a horrible person he is. And I'll be there for her if she ever wants to reach out.
She told you nothing because there was nothing to tell you. What, you expect her to tell you about every guy that she comes across, if not she's not trustworthy?
Spot on
Have the boundaries been tested? Push back from her parents? I think when that happens that might be enlightening.
Families don’t always have to merge, but that won’t be possible unless your gf is ok keeping them at arms length.
Depending on your family situation it’s not always easy to get babysitting arranged for a night. It’s definitely usually more complex than something like dinner reservations which is another typical birthday thing.
Full of shit
I only read the headline, not the rest of the post, because I didn’t need to. Keep not replying. Dude is your ex. Keep it that way.
Ya I've expressed that it's a personal mental issue and not a physical issue with us. When I do say that it's when we're already discussing it and I think she hears it as an excuse I'm coming up with after the fact as opposed to preemptively expressing myself before we get to that point. Thank you for the reassurance.
He's gonna end up giving you something you can't get rid of.
Imagine spending your nights worry free, instead of wondering who he's banging and what he's catching to bring home to you.
Maybe you're thinking too much about it. I can sympathize with that, accounting for your past traumatic experience, totally understandable. My first inclination (as a straight-cis-36M) is that you may be thinking too hard about climaxing and this affects your mood / emotional state, which then affects your physical ability to achieve climax. I think I have experience with this with my GF.
For males, achieving orgasm is pretty straight forward and simple. We get horny, we get very hot, we have sex, we cum, then we're out for around 10 minutes or so, at least, on average. For females, I've read that achieving climax can often be different…like females tend to need more than simply the physical aspects of sex to achieve orgasm and can orgasm multiple times during sex. Of course, this is not saying “all women”, but in my experience, I can say this is true with all the women I've been with, especially my current GF. My GF and I have had sex hundreds of times, if not a thousand at this point (been together 12 years), and I can recall the times when our sex didn't make her reach climax. During those times, we may have forced sex…like, we weren't really feeling it, but did it anyway since it's part of what we do regularly (IE: during our Saturday Netflix and chill nights).
In the times she didn't cum, or had a really hot time doing so, I could tell she was forcing it or thinking about it too much. I'd try kissing her, whispering in her ear, and gently touching her, what we call “non-G-spot” body parts, like very lightly running my fingers on the back of neck, but to no avail. I'd orgasm, but she wouldn't, no matter how nude she tried, even while using a vibrator or viciously rubbing her you-know-what. We'd be super apologetic to each other during those times, thinking back at it now. Almost every time we have sex, she climaxes at least 3 times, but there have been a few times where she doesn't, and the times she doesn't, it's more to do with mood more than anything.
TL:DR — My suggestion is to not force it, don't try to force yourself to orgasm, don't think too much about it. Online in the moment, and feel completely loved up by your BF. Don't think, just feel. Make sure the time is right.
Lol you guys really do a lot of mental gymnastics on this sub. What you call fear shame and rejection is actually constructive criticism and we’ve been very happy for 8 years together so GFYS
You brought up an interesting topic (redpill). When I was at my lowest and loneliest, I took to that ideology for a couple of months. I'm not very proud of that.
At that time I was dissapointed of my “relationships” with women. I had a feeling that the vast majority of them were just playing with me and leading me on, did terrible things behind their partners' back and were ready to ditch them the minute they find someone better. I grew bitter and thought long-term relationships cannot last. And that is exactly what Redpill is based on. Treat them bad, otherwise they will use you and ditch you for someone else.
I'm so happy to escape that community, but then, as shown in the comments, I might turned to the “Rescuer” role in relationships which isn't good either.
How did the Redpill ideology showed in your relationship?
Lifelong migraines sufferer here and I got news for him nothing you do is gonna make your migraines any better. Have you been checked for sleep apnea because you could be having headaches because you have sleep apnea. I used to have sleep apnea until I lost some weight and I don’t have to use a CPAP machine anymore, sadly, my migraines won’t go away
I’ll message you if that’s cool
We are early in our relationship (4 months) and hadn't really clearly said, “hey sexting other people is inappropriate”
After becoming official boyfriend-girlfriend, there are many behaviors that for me fall into the “goes without saying” category, and sexting other people of one of those things. Also, fuck him for getting angry at you.
Once that ice cold fury hits your heart, it's impossible to look at the person the same way again.
Yes, you can delay the break-up with counseling IF you really want to get to the root of his issues, but, if he's unwilling to even do the minimum of effort as although he fucked up and he's embarrassed it gives you his level of respect he views you with.
Maybe white knuckle for a year so you have the best exit plan ready for you and your child so you can leave with your head held high?
Thanks. I think I just needed to put it out into the universe, and have someone just tell me to go for it. I laid it on a little heavier, and we met for drinks earlier. I also just dropped her off from a date that went really well!
What your wife is doing is abuse. You are allowing it to happen. She is a child, grow a fucking pair and protect her. If you refuse to, give her mother custody so she does not have to be subjected to your wife’s cruelty. Your daughter will have life long consequences from your wife’s actions.
I literally have no idea what I would feel, I find the idea of interacting with another women attractive but I’ve never done it before/
I met my partner on-line, long distance. We've been living together in-person for almost a decade now. I think some people get into on-line LDR stuff planning to never meet and that seems more common nowadays, maybe that was the case with her (kinda strange you hadn't met yet), but there will always be people who say that relationships that start live! aren't relationships. That is pretty sad for them, very often they are old-fashioned or simply unhappy and feel this is one of the few circumstances they can comfortably look down upon.
You just ignored the rest of the comment coz all you care about is being right in this particular argument.
Girl, your relationship is a dumpster fire. It doesn't matter who's right.
I don’t see how this is a problem. A.i. will save many a man from saying the wrong thing via text [something men are notorious for.]
Just don’t give it away…
There's absolutely no way to send her an anonymous message. And considering we're all coworkers (dumb, I know) i really feel it could blow up in my face if he does lie and manipulate her. There's no good way to approach her either. If she isn't actually sleeping with him, I just outed my business to a coworker that regularly works with him. She could tell him and he might get angry and go after me in one way or another. If she is, well, he could've already filled her head with lies about me. Or he might as soon as I talk to her. I don't know her well enough to know that she wouldn't tell everyone else. I also feel like there's a possibility he would start a smear campaign against me to all our coworkers if he found out that I tried telling her.
I just see waaaay too many things that could possibly go wrong. I would rather just quietly move on. She'll find out eventually what a horrible person he is. And I'll be there for her if she ever wants to reach out.