U/sally_marie_b sums it up well. I’m hopping on here to add an example to add to the perspective of “why would husband celebrate his wife/mother of his kids on Mother’s Day” (even though it is entirely obvious why he would lol, no explanation needed for sane people)…
On Valentine’s Day my dad would give my mom a bouquet of roses and he’d give me and my sister each a rose too. It‘s not Daughter’s Day. We weren’t his romantic Valentine’s. So why should he do that? Oh, because we are his family and he wanted us to feel loved on that day too. It’s pretty easy, he was already out getting flowers for mom anyway…
This example is different because it actually is more logical that your husband celebrate the mother of his kids on Mother’s Day! Duh. You are not his mother but you ARE the mother of his kid. What an idiot. And what an unreasonable response from him… what the hell does he mean “you have nothing to give him”? UM dude for one thing, your son. If nothing else she gave you your son you idiot – which circles right back to this whole why he should wish you a happy Mother’s Day thing…which btw saying those 3 words out loud takes about 2 seconds and 0 effort. My question for your husband is what is wrong with you? Speak up now manchild…
Apparently your gf is dictating the future of your children. You can't be the mom because you present as “more masculine”. What sort of sexist nonsense is this? She only wants children that are biologically hers? That sounds very selfish to me. Also the “bad genes” comment is kind of a mean thing to say to you. Then there's the “her family wouldn't love the kid as much if it wasn't hers”! What kind of selfish family does she come from? How does she not see she's insulting you and calling you less? Her attitude is very selfish and it's all about her, her wants, her needs. Does she truly love you if this is what she says to you and how she feels about you? This should worry you a lot.
Best choice. Keep it a buck with him, then actively listen to his verbal and physical responses. Every relationship should be built on and nourished by reasonable boundaries.
Then do you and your wife both a favor (not that you deserve one imo), and get a divorce and go find a little-miss-hardbody that meets your criteria.
All of it.
Get the fuck out.
it's part of his fantasy that these women are available to him
Happy Mother’s Day, OP! ?
U/sally_marie_b sums it up well. I’m hopping on here to add an example to add to the perspective of “why would husband celebrate his wife/mother of his kids on Mother’s Day” (even though it is entirely obvious why he would lol, no explanation needed for sane people)…
On Valentine’s Day my dad would give my mom a bouquet of roses and he’d give me and my sister each a rose too. It‘s not Daughter’s Day. We weren’t his romantic Valentine’s. So why should he do that? Oh, because we are his family and he wanted us to feel loved on that day too. It’s pretty easy, he was already out getting flowers for mom anyway…
This example is different because it actually is more logical that your husband celebrate the mother of his kids on Mother’s Day! Duh. You are not his mother but you ARE the mother of his kid. What an idiot. And what an unreasonable response from him… what the hell does he mean “you have nothing to give him”? UM dude for one thing, your son. If nothing else she gave you your son you idiot – which circles right back to this whole why he should wish you a happy Mother’s Day thing…which btw saying those 3 words out loud takes about 2 seconds and 0 effort. My question for your husband is what is wrong with you? Speak up now manchild…
Apparently your gf is dictating the future of your children. You can't be the mom because you present as “more masculine”. What sort of sexist nonsense is this? She only wants children that are biologically hers? That sounds very selfish to me. Also the “bad genes” comment is kind of a mean thing to say to you. Then there's the “her family wouldn't love the kid as much if it wasn't hers”! What kind of selfish family does she come from? How does she not see she's insulting you and calling you less? Her attitude is very selfish and it's all about her, her wants, her needs. Does she truly love you if this is what she says to you and how she feels about you? This should worry you a lot.
He didn't forget!
Best choice. Keep it a buck with him, then actively listen to his verbal and physical responses. Every relationship should be built on and nourished by reasonable boundaries.