you would not start a relationship with someone who want to kill himself, wouldn't you ?
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no doubt he is hurt. but you coming back wont solve the problem. the hurting is still done; and it is probably liked to trauma you are not related with and mayve don't even know about. like abandon.
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he needs help. but he doesn't need that you “save” him. it would worsen the situation for both of you. send him to therapy. it is not an option. the alternative is emergency psychiatric ward for suicidal people.
talk to her family . it is not your problem alone.
I'd tell him that I'll be talking to her since he is lying through his teeth. Something is up for sure.
I mean the way that this is told of course you come off seeming like the innocent party but I wondering what his side of the story would be…
Regardless it seems like you guys aren't meant to be.
Are you saying that the only chore he helps with is splitting laundry with you?
you would not start a relationship with someone who want to kill himself, wouldn't you ?
โ
no doubt he is hurt. but you coming back wont solve the problem. the hurting is still done; and it is probably liked to trauma you are not related with and mayve don't even know about. like abandon.
โ
he needs help. but he doesn't need that you “save” him. it would worsen the situation for both of you. send him to therapy. it is not an option. the alternative is emergency psychiatric ward for suicidal people.
talk to her family . it is not your problem alone.
She sounds toxic. Talk to her about it. If she is unwilling to work on her behavior and communication skills in therapy, then I would leave.
yeah and OP can decide to break up if that discomfort is too much for him. doesnโt mean itโs a dealbreaker for everyone though.