Um so she's been pretty clear here that if you want to be with her you're going to have to support her financially. This is only going to get more expensive as time goes on. Is this something you're up for?
Thats why I wanted to book a flight for a week so he can see what it feels like to be without me. Not necessarily to hurt him, but just to have that space. Looking back when I made this post I was very angry
My mother was an alcoholic. She chose alcohol over the family.. In her mind it was not a problem. I wish my father had taken us and left her. During my senior year of high school, she abandoned us. My father died 18 months later. In those 18 months, we were so happy and relaxed and our home felt safe for the only time in our lives.
You and your child will never be chosen first in the family. Addictions will come first until he recognizes it is a problem. Your forgiveness and holding the marriage together will always fall to you if you stay. It is enabling his addiction because it must not be that bad if you stay…. There needs to be consequences.
For the sake of you and your child, I hope you get out while you still can have a full and happy life.
He's lying to you. And then gaslighting you about it.
Um so she's been pretty clear here that if you want to be with her you're going to have to support her financially. This is only going to get more expensive as time goes on. Is this something you're up for?
Thats why I wanted to book a flight for a week so he can see what it feels like to be without me. Not necessarily to hurt him, but just to have that space. Looking back when I made this post I was very angry
Yeah, I think this is exactly what I need to hear… thank you
I know several different children whose mothers changed their names when remarried. The children were all 5 and older. Their motivation to be honest was primarily to not be identified immediately as a divorcée or children of divorce, cut ties with the past, and promote the step as primary parent. In every case the children were deeply hurt as adults and asked questions about why their fathers gave them up. Ironically and sadly the mother’s also divorced the step parent so the children suffer identity issues.
My mother was an alcoholic. She chose alcohol over the family.. In her mind it was not a problem. I wish my father had taken us and left her. During my senior year of high school, she abandoned us. My father died 18 months later. In those 18 months, we were so happy and relaxed and our home felt safe for the only time in our lives.
You and your child will never be chosen first in the family. Addictions will come first until he recognizes it is a problem. Your forgiveness and holding the marriage together will always fall to you if you stay. It is enabling his addiction because it must not be that bad if you stay…. There needs to be consequences.
For the sake of you and your child, I hope you get out while you still can have a full and happy life.