Dude it’s 100% almost standard protocol to outright not ask your interviewer to call your current boss for a reference unless they plan to offer you a position. I promise you the interviewer will 100% understand almost all of the time and if they don’t then that’s a toxic place and gtfo.
Him taking accountability will only make you question yourself further. “Is he really wanting to do better since he’s finally telling the truth? Am I overreacting?”
The answer is no and no. Cut your losses or waste more precious time on someone who doesn’t respect you. Your choice.
OP said everyone degraded her so she went and posted looking for advice and sympathy elsewhere.
In full disclosure, I told her to post in the other sub she posted in. And I've had to ban one person already from that sub and remove 3 other comments for what they've said to her. One commenter called her a whre and a dumb btch. Another called her gross and pathetic.
If anyone wants to blame her for posting in another sub for advice and sympathy, blame me. I messaged her privately and suggested she post in that sub, an abuse support sub, because everyone, regardless of what people think they are “allowing,” deserves basic human decency and respect.
So again, blame me. I'm happy to bear the brunt of the ire people have for this woman so she doesn't have to. She's a human being and she deserves respect no matter what you all think of her.
Do you think it's worth bringing up to her? For instance asking why she's still going on dates if she sees a future with this guy.
Also this guy got a different girl pregnant, not entirely relevant, but I feel like it could be part of the reason she's not making it official.
Dude it’s 100% almost standard protocol to outright not ask your interviewer to call your current boss for a reference unless they plan to offer you a position. I promise you the interviewer will 100% understand almost all of the time and if they don’t then that’s a toxic place and gtfo.
Fucking sue him. He committed a crime. Report him to the police. You are going to have a lifetime of painful outbreaks because of him.
Him taking accountability will only make you question yourself further. “Is he really wanting to do better since he’s finally telling the truth? Am I overreacting?”
The answer is no and no. Cut your losses or waste more precious time on someone who doesn’t respect you. Your choice.
OP said everyone degraded her so she went and posted looking for advice and sympathy elsewhere.
In full disclosure, I told her to post in the other sub she posted in. And I've had to ban one person already from that sub and remove 3 other comments for what they've said to her. One commenter called her a whre and a dumb btch. Another called her gross and pathetic.
If anyone wants to blame her for posting in another sub for advice and sympathy, blame me. I messaged her privately and suggested she post in that sub, an abuse support sub, because everyone, regardless of what people think they are “allowing,” deserves basic human decency and respect.
So again, blame me. I'm happy to bear the brunt of the ire people have for this woman so she doesn't have to. She's a human being and she deserves respect no matter what you all think of her.