Personally, my mom stresses me out, so I didn’t want her there. But I can absolutely see your partners desire here, since they’re close.
Pregnancy sucks. It’s dangerous to mom and her body is going to change. A lot. Plus she’s going to have no less than a dozen strangers staring up her vagina by the end of this.
I can see your side, but having been through pregnancy, I can definitely see hers also.
Also, heads up: it’s very likely mom will end up staying with you to help right after baby is born. Have your thoughts composed about that as you get closer.
I would not try to reconcile. It seems like you’re still going through a rough time, and have goals of your own and this is going to add a good bit of stress to your life again. If you’re not happy where you are you won’t be happy with someone else.
He does but he doesn’t mean to and profusely apologizes and makes up for it every time. I just can’t help but get stuck on the things he’s done or said in the past. He doesn’t talk about other women and stuff as much anymore.
Exactly. The misogyny comments confuse me. It’s not like he berated my baby. He’s never shown feelings of disliking women or wanting to discriminate against them.
Thanks for everyones input, and to be fair, she does take me out, occasionally. We're going to a show and a fancy dinner for my birthday, she's invited me. She also bought me nice gifts for Christmas and invites me to her place for meals once in a while. So it's not all take take.
I would tell him it makes you uncomfortable, but I would also ask him why he suddenly started talking like that. Chances are he’s been watching porn or reading something about sex that made him want to try it. Chances are he wants to spice things up. If you just say “stop it” and don’t talk about it at all, he will leave that conversation feeling very unfulfilled. If you talk about why, you guys might be able to find a new/different way to spice things up together.
The bad smell is him. He's smelling his own bullshit. Get rid of him. Also. Texting other girls after already making you feel crap?! That would've been the final straw for me.
You might consider reversing the typical “Parents’ Disappointment Speech”…
“Dad and Mom, I am so very disappointed by the hurtful choices you are making. I’ve tried to instill in you the very real lack of moral and ethical behavior by my Ex, that resulted in causing me great pain but you have chosen to ignore me, your own daughter, in favor of Ex’s immoral behavior. I am left to wonder if one or either of you have previously participated in such unethical and morally bankrupt behavior, so you easily accept his. It leaves me not so much angry but oh so disappointed in you as people & especially parents.”
She does get frustrated when I don’t come. But it’s intermittent. Last week we had fantastic sex Friday night. Maybe best ever. She got off multiple times, then got me off like a volcano. Then things go back to comm silence.
I wasn’t born in 1958 Sparky…..it’s just a rando user name that Reddit gave me.
Oh and btw, I don’t drink liquor….I’ll have a beer or two occasionally. It’s just like your generation to be so presumptuous and act like they have all the information in front of them, no offense.
lol ya because you have to actually parent your child? You reject literally everything everyone says. No one is going to give you anything new.
Man, I think you’d do us all a favor if you reveal his name or a photo or whatever cuz I, as a lady do not want to run into him ?
Ps: I’m sure it’s illegal but I just felt like saying that
She is scared and her mom has been through this.
Personally, my mom stresses me out, so I didn’t want her there. But I can absolutely see your partners desire here, since they’re close.
Pregnancy sucks. It’s dangerous to mom and her body is going to change. A lot. Plus she’s going to have no less than a dozen strangers staring up her vagina by the end of this.
I can see your side, but having been through pregnancy, I can definitely see hers also.
Also, heads up: it’s very likely mom will end up staying with you to help right after baby is born. Have your thoughts composed about that as you get closer.
The more I sit here and read OP's comments the more they remind me of a abusive relationship.
I would not try to reconcile. It seems like you’re still going through a rough time, and have goals of your own and this is going to add a good bit of stress to your life again. If you’re not happy where you are you won’t be happy with someone else.
There is no need to make excuses for someone who has such little regard for your property.
, his own life or the lives of those around him.
Fify
Hang in there. I hope you will have all the strength you need to make the best decisions for yourself.
He does but he doesn’t mean to and profusely apologizes and makes up for it every time. I just can’t help but get stuck on the things he’s done or said in the past. He doesn’t talk about other women and stuff as much anymore.
Words could not encapsulate how much of an intentionally hurtful piece of trash your boyfriend is, or how critically low your sense of self worth is.
And that is a disastrous combination.
Ok, you are not a good friend or a good person. Just stay out of your ex best friend's life for good.
She's more likely making the story up for karma. How can anyone want to stay with someone that admitted they wanting to rape you for the longest?
Exactly. The misogyny comments confuse me. It’s not like he berated my baby. He’s never shown feelings of disliking women or wanting to discriminate against them.
Thanks for everyones input, and to be fair, she does take me out, occasionally. We're going to a show and a fancy dinner for my birthday, she's invited me. She also bought me nice gifts for Christmas and invites me to her place for meals once in a while. So it's not all take take.
Dude I've been living with my partner for several YEARS and we still learn new stuff about each other
Yep- I've been with my husband for 16 years, married for 10- and even just this weekend I learned he doesn't like chocolate syrup on his ice cream.
I would tell him it makes you uncomfortable, but I would also ask him why he suddenly started talking like that. Chances are he’s been watching porn or reading something about sex that made him want to try it. Chances are he wants to spice things up. If you just say “stop it” and don’t talk about it at all, he will leave that conversation feeling very unfulfilled. If you talk about why, you guys might be able to find a new/different way to spice things up together.
Thank you
The bad smell is him. He's smelling his own bullshit. Get rid of him. Also. Texting other girls after already making you feel crap?! That would've been the final straw for me.
You might consider reversing the typical “Parents’ Disappointment Speech”…
“Dad and Mom, I am so very disappointed by the hurtful choices you are making. I’ve tried to instill in you the very real lack of moral and ethical behavior by my Ex, that resulted in causing me great pain but you have chosen to ignore me, your own daughter, in favor of Ex’s immoral behavior. I am left to wonder if one or either of you have previously participated in such unethical and morally bankrupt behavior, so you easily accept his. It leaves me not so much angry but oh so disappointed in you as people & especially parents.”
A guy you dated for THREE MONTHS, seven years ago?
I'm sorry, but this screams mid-life crisis. Do you even know if he's single?
Don't do this.
She does get frustrated when I don’t come. But it’s intermittent. Last week we had fantastic sex Friday night. Maybe best ever. She got off multiple times, then got me off like a volcano. Then things go back to comm silence.
I wasn’t born in 1958 Sparky…..it’s just a rando user name that Reddit gave me.
Oh and btw, I don’t drink liquor….I’ll have a beer or two occasionally. It’s just like your generation to be so presumptuous and act like they have all the information in front of them, no offense.