Uh no it's distinctly not about loving her enough. Sometimes you just can't do it no matter how much you love them. It really sounds like you're trying to guilt them but saying if you loved her it would be easy. But real love is hardly ever easy and if he stays with her his life will be very very very hot. Especially because she's not allowing him to do anything to recharge, he's not allowed to take care of himself only her. That's not a real relationship
“I feel guilty about this but I know if he finds out, he will just refuse to wear condoms and itโll cause a massive fight.” There is a big difference between that and a good healthy non-abusive relationship. Saying I'm doing this and leaving no room for discussion especially when involving two people isn't communication. “Weโve talked about this in the past and he said if I ever got on the pill, he would not want to use condoms because there would be no point.” And he clearly knows nothing about birth control. This is not how you describe a healthy relationship. At all. “We've talk about this” “he said he would not want to wear condoms” “if he finds out, he will just refuse to wear condoms.” This is not healthy. It might not be abusive yet but there ARE red flag that she should definitely take into account
Uh no it's distinctly not about loving her enough. Sometimes you just can't do it no matter how much you love them. It really sounds like you're trying to guilt them but saying if you loved her it would be easy. But real love is hardly ever easy and if he stays with her his life will be very very very hot. Especially because she's not allowing him to do anything to recharge, he's not allowed to take care of himself only her. That's not a real relationship
Asking single people to join your married dynamic is probably not a wise idea.
You need to be looking for couples. Or other guys for you to be friends with.
“I feel guilty about this but I know if he finds out, he will just refuse to wear condoms and itโll cause a massive fight.” There is a big difference between that and a good healthy non-abusive relationship. Saying I'm doing this and leaving no room for discussion especially when involving two people isn't communication. “Weโve talked about this in the past and he said if I ever got on the pill, he would not want to use condoms because there would be no point.” And he clearly knows nothing about birth control. This is not how you describe a healthy relationship. At all. “We've talk about this” “he said he would not want to wear condoms” “if he finds out, he will just refuse to wear condoms.” This is not healthy. It might not be abusive yet but there ARE red flag that she should definitely take into account
โi refuse to have sex with my wife because she doesnt shave down there.โ
see how that goes lol