You don't owe him a gf because you're the first in-person gf he's had. He's also had live gfs before so it's not like an live gf is something he's missed out on. Don't get yourself twisted. And definitely don't let him twist it around if he is the one making you feel guilty about his life choices.
I don't know why you trust him completely – he kept it from you for weeks and tried to keep you from reading the messages. He did this while you were post partum! Like what kind of horrible partner goes “I know my gf just birthed my child and is healing from that, let me go SEXT another woman”?!?!?!
Why would you let him have an on-line gf? In reward for him cheating on you…you will cosign it? And as stated he's already had on-line gfs in the past so him having another wouldn't “correct” his lack of in person gf, ONS, of fwb. If anything it'll be a stepping stone “well you let me have an on-line gf, what's the difference between that and me fucking someone I meet at a bar?”
I can't imagine considering for a second having a 5 year old in my house sitting there while everyone around them opened gifts. What a cruel thing to do!
If there is a guest in my home on Christmas when we are exchanging gifts there will be a gift for the guest. That means that I buy gifts for teenagers girlfriends, children of boyfriend/girlfriends or just a random friend who tags along.
Do you need to spend the same amount on this child as you do your grandchildren? No, not this year. But a gift of some sort would be gratefully accepted. Now, if the relationship continues next year she will probably get to be full grandchild level with the appropriate gifts.
I always think of it like this: I learn his love language so when he used it I know he loves me and vice versa rather than try to change the way he is to suit me, I just appreciate the things he does that I know he does cause he loves me.
Your counselor is garbage. Find a new one. He’s tired? What about you? You are freaking exhausted and borderline losing your mind. You take care of a child, and the house, and the meals and the income??? What is he even bringing to the table? A lot of relationships are like this where the men use being tired as an excuse to not pull their weight. You would be better off without your husband in the picture because taking care of one baby instead of two is a lot easier.
It would be selfish to try to make things work with her just because you don’t want her to be sad.
‘Doing it for her sake’ isn’t a selfless act. It’s one based in ego. The desire to be a ‘good’ person in her eyes. This need for moral approval might be linked to your depression – which I hope you seek help for. But please don’t make it the key reason for the break up in your talks with her.
The reason you’ve mentioned is you don’t want to be with one person for the rest of your life. Be honest about that part of it.
Still though, she wasn't not specifically asking for the rating scale. After all, he had no problem calling his chubby cat perfect, he could have said the same to his gf.
Don't you know that providing shelter for a partner is literally using them? /s
She must be lying about things, after all she was shy rude around a group of friends who've known each other most of their lives and should have instantly jived with the dynamic.
You may be surprised to hear but most people are capable of opening a door…..
He cheated on you. Call it what it is.
You don't owe him a gf because you're the first in-person gf he's had. He's also had live gfs before so it's not like an live gf is something he's missed out on. Don't get yourself twisted. And definitely don't let him twist it around if he is the one making you feel guilty about his life choices.
I don't know why you trust him completely – he kept it from you for weeks and tried to keep you from reading the messages. He did this while you were post partum! Like what kind of horrible partner goes “I know my gf just birthed my child and is healing from that, let me go SEXT another woman”?!?!?!
Why would you let him have an on-line gf? In reward for him cheating on you…you will cosign it? And as stated he's already had on-line gfs in the past so him having another wouldn't “correct” his lack of in person gf, ONS, of fwb. If anything it'll be a stepping stone “well you let me have an on-line gf, what's the difference between that and me fucking someone I meet at a bar?”
Your boyfriend is a prick, get rid of him.
Oh do not accept this behavior, he needs to move out give him a timeline and tell him he must be out by that date. He is abusing you and your home.
That the girl has a hair like the pony from the anime series literally
I can't imagine considering for a second having a 5 year old in my house sitting there while everyone around them opened gifts. What a cruel thing to do!
If there is a guest in my home on Christmas when we are exchanging gifts there will be a gift for the guest. That means that I buy gifts for teenagers girlfriends, children of boyfriend/girlfriends or just a random friend who tags along.
Do you need to spend the same amount on this child as you do your grandchildren? No, not this year. But a gift of some sort would be gratefully accepted. Now, if the relationship continues next year she will probably get to be full grandchild level with the appropriate gifts.
I always think of it like this: I learn his love language so when he used it I know he loves me and vice versa rather than try to change the way he is to suit me, I just appreciate the things he does that I know he does cause he loves me.
Exactly
It fact it sucks all parties hate comes in all forms even group forms
I lent your cheap ass money But I need it now Call JG Wentworth 877-Cash-Now
I’d honestly give them 30$ under the condition to never contact your friend again. It’s shitty and weird, but not worth the hassle.
Okay, thanks.
Three are so many others, but I didn't want to sound like I wasn't over it. I'm well past it.
Your counselor is garbage. Find a new one. He’s tired? What about you? You are freaking exhausted and borderline losing your mind. You take care of a child, and the house, and the meals and the income??? What is he even bringing to the table? A lot of relationships are like this where the men use being tired as an excuse to not pull their weight. You would be better off without your husband in the picture because taking care of one baby instead of two is a lot easier.
Lol. He never smiles, never speaks unless you say something to him. He's a bigger guy.
You know the type. He seems like he would be an easy guy to see but he always just “appears” behind you
It would be selfish to try to make things work with her just because you don’t want her to be sad.
‘Doing it for her sake’ isn’t a selfless act. It’s one based in ego. The desire to be a ‘good’ person in her eyes. This need for moral approval might be linked to your depression – which I hope you seek help for. But please don’t make it the key reason for the break up in your talks with her.
The reason you’ve mentioned is you don’t want to be with one person for the rest of your life. Be honest about that part of it.
Still though, she wasn't not specifically asking for the rating scale. After all, he had no problem calling his chubby cat perfect, he could have said the same to his gf.
Don't you know that providing shelter for a partner is literally using them? /s
She must be lying about things, after all she was shy rude around a group of friends who've known each other most of their lives and should have instantly jived with the dynamic.