please say it louder for the people in the back!!!!!!
Easily when 1 partner is like 18-23 with a older partner, like a good age gap, is almost ALWAYS indicative of something wrong with the older partner or a need for them to date younger (to be in control, etc) and none are positive.
It sounds more like OP makes every inconvenience or situation that doesn’t involve him about race. Why would someone’s first thought be “I wasn’t invited to this because I’m not white”?
There’s nothing wrong with OP being annoyed that the boyfriend keeps bringing the trip up but he could’ve told him he finds it annoying rather than jumping to “you white people love excluding people and I wasn’t invited because I’m not white”. That’s an incredibly unhinged way of thinking.
I don't know if I'll ever see him again, his asking me over and over again if I had an orgasm made me feel insecure and I told him he wasn't sexually attracted to me. And that he liked a certain type of woman. Since he thinks I'm lying to him about everything then maybe he just isn't into me sexually.
I don't think people can take your post seriously when you write : “So I have always tried to meet people for gaming specifically League. Ive dated a few guys here and there but nothing seemed to last. My boyfriend who i have been with for 7 months was higher ranked than me and we simply enjoyed playing the game together even though there is a huge skill difference and talked multiple times about meeting up.”
I believe the real problem is your motivation and reasoning behind your definition of “love”. You are dating but haven't set any actual goals to what should be important for you in a long-term commitment.
It's easy to find guys playing league. But what about other important qualities?
On top of that this ex of yours seemed to do a whole lot for you. And you kind of took that for granted over some minor incidents. Why the hell would anyone get upset for getting the wrong kind of flowers? Jeez… If a man sends you flowers that's a wholesome gesture.
I think that besides the men you're meeting up with, you should also take a real good look in the mirror. I don't think you're a bad person, but I do detect some behavior in there that doesn't quite seem healthy to me.
I would include it if the date have sex or kissing or physical contact. If some guy bought you dinner and you left and got really drunk and then went to your house who cares? You were broken up anyway. But if you slept with him. It will come up somehow, and it will not be good unless you can find some way to tell him. It may not work anyway but you will have kept your side clean.
Treating her amazingly? Seriously? you’re cheating on her, with a 22 yr old. News flash that’s not treating her amazingly. You are AH, who has no respect for his wife, and the life you built together. Your wife,and kids deserve better. Stop being a coward, take responsibility for your selfishness, tell your wife the truth. Then let her decide what’s right for her and her kids. It’s sad to think you would risk your family for a piece of ass, who will leave you the minute someone hotter, and younger shows her some interest.
You are dating a 21 year old woman who is still in the process of learning how to function as an adult, what do you expect? And I have one more question, just out of curiosity: How long are you two dating?
I’m not saying she’s a bad person for wanting a divorce. If that’s what she wants, it’s fine. The biggest problem is separating him from his kids. Based on the information available, he seems like a good father who is now taking on another kid he didn’t know existed. Taking kids across the country away from a father who loves and seems able to care for them is wrong. Punishing him and his kids for something he didn’t know about. Which isn’t the trait of a good person.
Stop living on the edge, make a decision your 40 years old. Be an adult. Either go 100% as a bachelor with nothing to show for it or make a commitment to this woman and give 100% and create a fulfilling life with her and her child.
Is money tight? Why not order another item or grab a snack at home?
The answer: “No. I am still hungry. That’s very different. My pizza was unexpectedly smaller. “ and decide what to do.
For fucks sake, leave her and fuck her friends.
Srsly dude get some self respect and leave
please say it louder for the people in the back!!!!!!
Easily when 1 partner is like 18-23 with a older partner, like a good age gap, is almost ALWAYS indicative of something wrong with the older partner or a need for them to date younger (to be in control, etc) and none are positive.
SMH
It sounds more like OP makes every inconvenience or situation that doesn’t involve him about race. Why would someone’s first thought be “I wasn’t invited to this because I’m not white”?
There’s nothing wrong with OP being annoyed that the boyfriend keeps bringing the trip up but he could’ve told him he finds it annoying rather than jumping to “you white people love excluding people and I wasn’t invited because I’m not white”. That’s an incredibly unhinged way of thinking.
I don't know if I'll ever see him again, his asking me over and over again if I had an orgasm made me feel insecure and I told him he wasn't sexually attracted to me. And that he liked a certain type of woman. Since he thinks I'm lying to him about everything then maybe he just isn't into me sexually.
Sometimes you're just too far down the road not to hurt anyone… that's the real problem
I don't think people can take your post seriously when you write : “So I have always tried to meet people for gaming specifically League. Ive dated a few guys here and there but nothing seemed to last. My boyfriend who i have been with for 7 months was higher ranked than me and we simply enjoyed playing the game together even though there is a huge skill difference and talked multiple times about meeting up.”
I believe the real problem is your motivation and reasoning behind your definition of “love”. You are dating but haven't set any actual goals to what should be important for you in a long-term commitment.
It's easy to find guys playing league. But what about other important qualities?
On top of that this ex of yours seemed to do a whole lot for you. And you kind of took that for granted over some minor incidents. Why the hell would anyone get upset for getting the wrong kind of flowers? Jeez… If a man sends you flowers that's a wholesome gesture.
I think that besides the men you're meeting up with, you should also take a real good look in the mirror. I don't think you're a bad person, but I do detect some behavior in there that doesn't quite seem healthy to me.
He 100% assault you, it sounds horrible and painful so sorry
I would include it if the date have sex or kissing or physical contact. If some guy bought you dinner and you left and got really drunk and then went to your house who cares? You were broken up anyway. But if you slept with him. It will come up somehow, and it will not be good unless you can find some way to tell him. It may not work anyway but you will have kept your side clean.
Treating her amazingly? Seriously? you’re cheating on her, with a 22 yr old. News flash that’s not treating her amazingly. You are AH, who has no respect for his wife, and the life you built together. Your wife,and kids deserve better. Stop being a coward, take responsibility for your selfishness, tell your wife the truth. Then let her decide what’s right for her and her kids. It’s sad to think you would risk your family for a piece of ass, who will leave you the minute someone hotter, and younger shows her some interest.
You are dating a 21 year old woman who is still in the process of learning how to function as an adult, what do you expect? And I have one more question, just out of curiosity: How long are you two dating?
Just chatted you
You broke up. He immediately slept with her. For reasons that are unclear, you got back together with him. She sent you the video.
Of course seeing the video is sickening. Who wants to see that?
The better question- why did you go back to him when he screwed someone else moments after you broke up?
I’m not saying she’s a bad person for wanting a divorce. If that’s what she wants, it’s fine. The biggest problem is separating him from his kids. Based on the information available, he seems like a good father who is now taking on another kid he didn’t know existed. Taking kids across the country away from a father who loves and seems able to care for them is wrong. Punishing him and his kids for something he didn’t know about. Which isn’t the trait of a good person.
Stop living on the edge, make a decision your 40 years old. Be an adult. Either go 100% as a bachelor with nothing to show for it or make a commitment to this woman and give 100% and create a fulfilling life with her and her child.
“The next time you open that door without my permission, I will shoot you” sometimes works.
In your shoes I'd do exactly the same. You did great standing up for yourself. This guy sounds like a crybaby that could find every excuse to cheat.