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Maybe see a professional about whether 1-2 months is enough of a porn detox – if you’d been watching quite a bit then it may take longer than that to reset?
I think a key question is also whether you were ever attracted to her in that way or if something has shifted at some point.
My advice is to untangle whether is a problem that comes from your porn use or not. Then you can make a better decision.
There are great starter resources out there in the sex therapy space that can get you thinking about things in a different way. Might help you untangle things.
Also you can consider that our culture promotes certain sexual norms and it’s actually really ok if sex doesn’t occur to you that often. However the fact that you use porn and masturbate makes me think you do have a naturally strong sex drive.
Ultimately she deserves to be with someone who does have that oo ah ah sensation for her, and you also deserve to be with someone who excites you in that way (assuming that sex is important to both of you).
Long term relationships that lack physical attraction often end up in pretty sad places so if you think you’re just not that attracted to her then at your age I’d suggest moving on. I know sex is just one issue now but trust me when the attraction really wanes when one person still has a strong desire, you can end up in a pretty dead bedroom and it becomes THE issue, and takes up a lot of space.
Wait. Your husband HIT you over this? Why aren't your bags packed? Why aren't you and your kid already out the door?
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Maybe see a professional about whether 1-2 months is enough of a porn detox – if you’d been watching quite a bit then it may take longer than that to reset?
I think a key question is also whether you were ever attracted to her in that way or if something has shifted at some point.
My advice is to untangle whether is a problem that comes from your porn use or not. Then you can make a better decision.
There are great starter resources out there in the sex therapy space that can get you thinking about things in a different way. Might help you untangle things.
Also you can consider that our culture promotes certain sexual norms and it’s actually really ok if sex doesn’t occur to you that often. However the fact that you use porn and masturbate makes me think you do have a naturally strong sex drive.
Ultimately she deserves to be with someone who does have that oo ah ah sensation for her, and you also deserve to be with someone who excites you in that way (assuming that sex is important to both of you).
Long term relationships that lack physical attraction often end up in pretty sad places so if you think you’re just not that attracted to her then at your age I’d suggest moving on. I know sex is just one issue now but trust me when the attraction really wanes when one person still has a strong desire, you can end up in a pretty dead bedroom and it becomes THE issue, and takes up a lot of space.