Evidently you and he have incompatible relationship styles.
It is my contention that everyone is on a scale from closed to open. If a person is in the middle, they can play along with what society expects, for the sake of family.
The norm is to be closed, so he played closed.
Now I presume the kids are grown? So there isn’t a compelling reason to be closed, and the lack of chaos, variety and group intimacy that he has always craved is causing resentment.
Whereas your natural level is closed only. Forcing you to do anything open would cause resentment in you.
I know couples whose household relationship has survived because they each take up exclusive sex with other partners instead of with each other. You might find a single guy to get close to, and break off sex with your partner.
Chances are this will not work in the long run, but worth negotiating.
NB: For that thing he said after you and he had sex: What an ass thing to say! Likewise the blindness that he can’t see that you are in the position of that other woman. I can only offer that he’s not thinking straight, but geez.
I'm confused did the condom break? If you're nervous take plan b If that's a possibility for you (I know there's a weight limit). I got pregnant not that close to my ovulation but we also we're doing the pull out method and I had an abortion.
There no way to know until you're me as r enough to your period to take a test.
I know I shouldn’t have and it’s bad but I was having severe suspicions
Well, you snooped because something was off. And you found something, probably more than you expected or hoped. He was cheating and it was an especially gross and sad kind of cheating.
Honestly, it doesn't really matter how you found out. If he tries to take the moral high ground you just point out he is sexting his foster sister and yeah. You win.
Sounds like things were already in a bad place. I think you really ought to consider letting this be the final nail. There is really no coming back from this.
Why am I not surprised you post in pedo subs?
You don’t have to convince him of anything! Make it clear what you’re uncomfortable with and what you’re willing to put up with. And mean it.
Evidently you and he have incompatible relationship styles.
It is my contention that everyone is on a scale from closed to open. If a person is in the middle, they can play along with what society expects, for the sake of family.
The norm is to be closed, so he played closed.
Now I presume the kids are grown? So there isn’t a compelling reason to be closed, and the lack of chaos, variety and group intimacy that he has always craved is causing resentment.
Whereas your natural level is closed only. Forcing you to do anything open would cause resentment in you.
I know couples whose household relationship has survived because they each take up exclusive sex with other partners instead of with each other. You might find a single guy to get close to, and break off sex with your partner.
Chances are this will not work in the long run, but worth negotiating.
NB: For that thing he said after you and he had sex: What an ass thing to say! Likewise the blindness that he can’t see that you are in the position of that other woman. I can only offer that he’s not thinking straight, but geez.
“The much bigger other dicks that I have had were painful” is what he heard. Why do you think making comments like this is a good idea?
You mean your wife left you and drives a fancy car on the support you provided?
I'm confused did the condom break? If you're nervous take plan b If that's a possibility for you (I know there's a weight limit). I got pregnant not that close to my ovulation but we also we're doing the pull out method and I had an abortion.
There no way to know until you're me as r enough to your period to take a test.
Honestly I hope „Max“ leaves OP one day she‘s a fucking predator, and I hope karma will come at her cuz… jeeeez
How would you feel if your boyfriend maintained contact with his FWB during the break?
I know I shouldn’t have and it’s bad but I was having severe suspicions
Well, you snooped because something was off. And you found something, probably more than you expected or hoped. He was cheating and it was an especially gross and sad kind of cheating.
Honestly, it doesn't really matter how you found out. If he tries to take the moral high ground you just point out he is sexting his foster sister and yeah. You win.
Sounds like things were already in a bad place. I think you really ought to consider letting this be the final nail. There is really no coming back from this.