I texted back home to ask if she was alright, and it turned out she was pissed because of how I spoke to her friend. She said I sounded like I was trying to assert dominance over him, and the friend was like, “why did he say it like that? He needs to chill. “
You know what happened, right? You fucked up her chance with her 'guy friend', that's why she is pissed.
Na, stick with your step-dad, I'm sure being effectively disowned by his daughter won't kill him. Besides, you are obviously a mommy's girl and catering to HER wishes for YOUR wedding. You and your mum are trash for considering this
Is there any way for me to get my point across without her shutting down
No, because boundaries aren't supposed to be stretched and broken so blatently. You make your stance clear and break up with her if she cant respect basic tenants of being in a relationship – thats it.
Very hot pass. Two major deal breakers right here – religion and financial goals. I’m not even going to go into how fragile and gullible one must be not to see through the scam.
Alert his family that he’s being taken for a ride, pack your stuff and leave.
I replied to another comment but when I said “operating costs” that was inclusive of home insurance, reasonable repairs, and I’d cover costs fully of anything that was a direct result of me.
I wonder whether his mother kicked him out because he was rude, lazy and immature? Maybe she hoped that moving out into the big wide world as an independent man would teach him some life skills. Unfortunately, because you have stepped up and are parenting him, he is learning nothing.
He needs you to step away. He doesn’t know it yet, but unless you do, he will not become a functioning adult. Kicking him out is the best thing you can do for him, as well as for yourself.
At 21 you should be having fun with people who appreciate you. Choose a better life for yourself. Insist that he stands on his own two feet.
This is the first time in many months I actually see a person who's whining like a baby and creates unnecessary drama over things.
Is this like you deal with every chore? Every conflict and non-conflict stumble?
“I'm having a bad day, don't pressure me, can't talk about it right now”. And when can you talk? Today, tomorrow, never? How often do you say this?
I'm sorry, depression and stuff (been there, done that) but why do I have a feeling that “I'm having a bad day, can't talk about it” is your every day go-to phrase?
If there's depression – go to therapy or whatever's available.
But if there's just your general unwillingness to actually discuss issues in a mature fashion, then no advice will help you unless you stop throwing your excuses around.
“I'm depressed, I'm quiet, it's all depressing, I'm so low energy, I'm independent”. Well, learn to deal with you mental shit and communicate as a grown up person instead of whining and finding excuses.
When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.
Ya'll some boring ass not-even-that-old people or just young'uns that still think adults cease to be people that like to fuck around and have fun.
I texted back home to ask if she was alright, and it turned out she was pissed because of how I spoke to her friend. She said I sounded like I was trying to assert dominance over him, and the friend was like, “why did he say it like that? He needs to chill. “
You know what happened, right? You fucked up her chance with her 'guy friend', that's why she is pissed.
Get a new best friend.
Babe is a good movie so I can't see her having a problem
Welcome to the club
Na, stick with your step-dad, I'm sure being effectively disowned by his daughter won't kill him. Besides, you are obviously a mommy's girl and catering to HER wishes for YOUR wedding. You and your mum are trash for considering this
Is there any way for me to get my point across without her shutting down
No, because boundaries aren't supposed to be stretched and broken so blatently. You make your stance clear and break up with her if she cant respect basic tenants of being in a relationship – thats it.
Very hot pass. Two major deal breakers right here – religion and financial goals. I’m not even going to go into how fragile and gullible one must be not to see through the scam.
Alert his family that he’s being taken for a ride, pack your stuff and leave.
He is JUST verbally abusive…. And you’re fine with that?
My ex was JUST verbally abusive until he threw me against a wall by my neck. It can and will escalate, stop victim blaming and help this poor women.
You decide if you want to do it every day, personally I wouldn't and he has to respect it
Domestic abuse
Seek counseling
Dude. Ur not happy. Just move on.
Why are u trying to stay unhappy
I replied to another comment but when I said “operating costs” that was inclusive of home insurance, reasonable repairs, and I’d cover costs fully of anything that was a direct result of me.
She actually suggested it like a year ago! I wasnt ready by that time but currently I am very cufious to try it.
Thanks
An 11 month pregnancy? I won't say I'm an expert in this field… But that sounds pretty odd…
I wonder whether his mother kicked him out because he was rude, lazy and immature? Maybe she hoped that moving out into the big wide world as an independent man would teach him some life skills. Unfortunately, because you have stepped up and are parenting him, he is learning nothing.
He needs you to step away. He doesn’t know it yet, but unless you do, he will not become a functioning adult. Kicking him out is the best thing you can do for him, as well as for yourself.
At 21 you should be having fun with people who appreciate you. Choose a better life for yourself. Insist that he stands on his own two feet.
Youre in so deep all your reasons come from other people. Things youve been trained to think you owe them
What do YOU stand for in this life?
You owe it to yourself to find out
Oh. My. God.
This is the first time in many months I actually see a person who's whining like a baby and creates unnecessary drama over things.
Is this like you deal with every chore? Every conflict and non-conflict stumble?
“I'm having a bad day, don't pressure me, can't talk about it right now”. And when can you talk? Today, tomorrow, never? How often do you say this?
I'm sorry, depression and stuff (been there, done that) but why do I have a feeling that “I'm having a bad day, can't talk about it” is your every day go-to phrase?
If there's depression – go to therapy or whatever's available.
But if there's just your general unwillingness to actually discuss issues in a mature fashion, then no advice will help you unless you stop throwing your excuses around.
“I'm depressed, I'm quiet, it's all depressing, I'm so low energy, I'm independent”. Well, learn to deal with you mental shit and communicate as a grown up person instead of whining and finding excuses.
For 3 years, yes
Reverse tho roles, and there would be outrage!
Don't feel bad about yourself, be glad you now know it is time to move on from your POS wife.
Would you say something like this to her, if not leave if you do stay, because you'd be the same.
This is something you dont say to a spouse if you live! them, period