leave him permanently and continue getting therapy with a licensed professional that makes you feel safe and has good reviews.
my first willing sexual experience wasn't an assault, but it was with a person who eventually DID sexually assault me, many times in many ways, and would eventually justify both cheating on me and assaulting other UNDERAGE GIRLS.
your boyfriend is a fucking dick and you deserve better. period. there is no “if” or “but he XYZ” or “but he says this”. so what? you're young, you need healing, and let me tell you, you can fall in love with ANYONE. anyone!
so take your time, heal yourself, and let yourself love somebody who ACTUALLY loves you! you deserve it! and if you don't see it now, give yourself the chance to for the future. because let me tell you, it does NOT get better with a “””man””” like your boyfriend – it only ever gets waaaay worse. trust me.
You don’t do that unless you guys get married and you know that marriage is rock solid (sometimes it doesn’t matter though). I’ve boarded the DON’T DO IT train with everyone else!
He's done you a favor by being up front. That's the only saving grace in this, yet somehow you're still attached as if this had a chance. You're still young enough to learn the skills you say you like, like knowing how to be emotionally independent. First, you have to actually try to be emotionally independent, and you may want to learn skills for dealing with emotions from a therapist. Look at your boyfriend, he has lived twice as long as you. Do you expect to have the same level of experience as someone double your age? You have so much time ahead of you to learn. Give yourself a chance.
Man I'm so glad my brother and his (now) wife are nothing like you. They let me stay with them in their small apartment for months when I was at my most vulnerable in spite of the fact that my brother never really liked me. I'm so grateful to both of them for not just being like “well he's annoying, so to the streets with him” lol.
Well she dislikes his dad by a choice the dad made, which is quite a bit different than than disliking someone based on something they have no control over, like race.
leave him permanently and continue getting therapy with a licensed professional that makes you feel safe and has good reviews.
my first willing sexual experience wasn't an assault, but it was with a person who eventually DID sexually assault me, many times in many ways, and would eventually justify both cheating on me and assaulting other UNDERAGE GIRLS.
your boyfriend is a fucking dick and you deserve better. period. there is no “if” or “but he XYZ” or “but he says this”. so what? you're young, you need healing, and let me tell you, you can fall in love with ANYONE. anyone!
so take your time, heal yourself, and let yourself love somebody who ACTUALLY loves you! you deserve it! and if you don't see it now, give yourself the chance to for the future. because let me tell you, it does NOT get better with a “””man””” like your boyfriend – it only ever gets waaaay worse. trust me.
good luck, you deserve to feel good.
You don’t do that unless you guys get married and you know that marriage is rock solid (sometimes it doesn’t matter though). I’ve boarded the DON’T DO IT train with everyone else!
He's done you a favor by being up front. That's the only saving grace in this, yet somehow you're still attached as if this had a chance. You're still young enough to learn the skills you say you like, like knowing how to be emotionally independent. First, you have to actually try to be emotionally independent, and you may want to learn skills for dealing with emotions from a therapist. Look at your boyfriend, he has lived twice as long as you. Do you expect to have the same level of experience as someone double your age? You have so much time ahead of you to learn. Give yourself a chance.
Man I'm so glad my brother and his (now) wife are nothing like you. They let me stay with them in their small apartment for months when I was at my most vulnerable in spite of the fact that my brother never really liked me. I'm so grateful to both of them for not just being like “well he's annoying, so to the streets with him” lol.
Some people just have zero compassion.
Well she dislikes his dad by a choice the dad made, which is quite a bit different than than disliking someone based on something they have no control over, like race.
Normal people don’t have a “dark side”. I think it would be best to peace tf out. He’s just testing the waters…
Ok? Move on?